Why do people do the things they do?

[Damaged]

I made arrangements to meet someone for lunch and they failed to show. I drove 45 minutes to restaurant after spending hours preparing. Why make a date and not cancel? I fail to see how they would benefit from having me drive to Port Coquitlam from Maple Ridge. I rarely agree to go out except for doctors, dentists and tests. It is not a minor thing for me it is exhausting. This individual supposedly suffers from autoimmune diseases as week and should know better. I refuse to let it ruin my day so went to my son's home and drove him to work. At least it wasn't a total loss lol

[Klah]

That is truly maddening! Often

People are irresponsible and/or thoughtless on occasion, for whatever reason. I have decided to keep track of those unexpected nice things and gestures that fall my way...they truly offset the bad breaks! Good for you to turning the aggravation into time well spent with your son😊 take that person off your lunch list!

[Damaged in reply to Klah]

It was a great day for a drive. I have a little MX5 GT, cherry red convertible. I love my car and refuse to give it up. I will pass it to my daughter. A great car for a student. Very economical and very cute.

[nomoreheels in reply to Damaged]

Ah memories. My first MX5 was cherry red, my second ever car & I loved it. How the heck do you get in & out of it though?! I'd have one of the new shape ones tomorrow but fear I'd be left wallowing like a hippo trying to extract myself from it.

[Damaged in reply to nomoreheels]

I bought a car cane at Canadian Tire. I love it, gets me in and out but once I am in it is the most comfortable seat I have lol

[AlexandriaUK in reply to Damaged]

Hi what don't kill you makes you stronger, I would send them an email or message saying really sorry I didn't manage lunch, hoping it didn't cause them too much of a problem what with there I'll health, then I would say ooops got it wrong it was me/I who had the inconvenience of driving there and them doing a no show, just had a thought, maybe they couldn't make it due to accident or really poorly.

If there fine then I wouldnt suggest you make any further arrangement with them, there obviously not a good friend.

Burgundy red for me, can you post pics on here??

[Damaged in reply to AlexandriaUK]

Yes you can post pics.I do not know this person ie just on line. I just do no understand the motivation. Why arrange to meet someone then not show up. No big, that was yesterday lol It was a lovely day for a drive and spent time with my son. Ironically the original lunch was cancelled due to an injury. I hope she is not unlucky enough to injure herself twice.

[Stephenlangtonriley in reply to Damaged]

As much as I hate to say it, there are trolls on every site and they take some perverse pleasure from their very childish behaviour, probably from the me/me generation where manners don't exist.

I would block this individual now, because noi matter what the cause, except death, there is no excuse for not letting you know. I could explain all the reasons why I have made that statement but anyone old enough would know how it works and what good manners mean.

[sylvi]

That is just so rude,they could have made the effort to ring and let you know they weren't coming. I should certainly thank them for letting you down and i know you will drop that person as a friend.xxxx

[Fruitandnutcase]

I'm glad you made the best of your day. Your son would have enjoyed seeing you though.

I don't know why people do that, I have a friend who never manages to turn up on time and after many years of that it i am now (for some reason) finding it very annoying and it makes me feel that I am not very important to her.

I'd get in touch with your friends and find out what the problem was then see how you want to react.

[Gnarli]

The more people I meet, current company excepted, the more I love my dog. Uncomplicated, she just wants me and mine, nice food, some jolly walks and a comfy bed - usually mine. Friends who let you down with no warning are either careless of your friendship or they have something awful happening in their lives. I try to be charitable without being saintly. You managed to turn your day round to see your son and enjoy time with him. Kudos to you! I would contact your friend to see why the no show and be nice. Just nice enough to perhaps send them on a guilt trip or at the least find out what the problem is. Hugs

Jan

[Sammicat15]

I would text or phone them ask what happened. It could have been an honest mistake.

We have an MX5 too and adore it!

[nomoreheels]

It must have been maddening but I'd contact your would-be lunch date, there may be a perfectly plausible reason for her no show. If there isn't maybe email the spoons theory, in a gentle way it may show her the differences in how your autoimmune conditions affect you, that is if she has lots of spoons available to her normally!

At least the day wasn't wasted, I'm sure the impromptu visit to your son was welcomed.

[Hidden]

Hi Damaged - So sorry to hear that. Have you talked with them since? It may be that they simply could not get there for some reason.. Especially if they have AI diseases too.. Or as strange as it may be, maybe they simply forgot. I usually pop an e-mail to folks I am scheduled with the day before just to verify (or remind them) that we are still on...

[Deminem]

Yikes, awkward!

[Damaged in reply to Deminem]

Not if you look at the history ! This is not the first missed lunch, only the last as it will not happen again.

[Neonkittie17]

Do you think they panicked or something at the thought of meeting someone for the first time? However that is no excuse for not texting or phoning. Sorry you were messed about and I agree with Sylvi to let them know you are not impressed. xx

[Neonkittie17 in reply to Neonkittie17]

Please stop this.

[Damaged]

I do not know how to take a post down but will happily remove it. As you know very hot day yesterday. Stuck in stop and go traffic. There is endless construction going on these days so no one gets in or out in that time frame, perhaps now that toll bridges will be free lol

I meant to delete that post not send but not great with technology.

I am not sure why you wanted to meet but clearly it is not meant to be. Hope your situation worked out and deepest sympathy to his family. Best of luck.

[GranAmie]

Forget, cool down and move on - why damage yourself more? Peeeaaace and slow breathing