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[42108]

Hi all, Not been on for a while but just wanted to

say my husband has just one kidney , he had cancer in his bladder and had a neo bladder made from 10”inches from his bowel to make a new bladder this was 9 yrs ago it’s come with lots of complications over the yrs but seems to be ok for the moment.

Anyway he had a Ct scan and an ultrasound on his kidney and found a lesion on it ultrasound guy said it’s probably a cyst a year ago. Then we get a call from a doctor to say it could be cancer just to prepare him. Then after that he had a letter saying they’re keeping an eye on it that was from the urologist and the Nephrologist are going to see him in July. He hasn’t had a biopsy so I’m just worried.

My dad had kidney cancer but when they found it it was too late it had spread to his bones and he died . I’d appreciate it if someone could get back to me thanks

[S_dillow]

i know what you mean.ny father officially died of bladder cancer but the doctor at the time told us his kidneys got it as well.hang in there until you hear back and keep us posted.

[42108 in reply to S_dillow]

thanks for your reply, I’m just a worry wart, I just hope that he will be ok .

[Darlenia]

Hang in there. The important thing to keep in mind is that several medical professionals are keeping a close eye on your hubby. That's absolutely wonderful. If it does wind up being cancer, it will have been caught early. And, should the absolute worst happen and with the loss of his one and only kidney, then there is dialysis to extend his life. Yes, dialysis doesn't end life but extends it. People often mix that up. But, first things first. Keep a tight hand on your supercomputer brain - it will run wild on you if you let that happen. Put those thoughts in their place. The reality is that your hubby is simply not your father. Moreover, he has not received a dire diagnosis, he's on "watch" status. So your hubby is here today with you and, right now, he is in good hands and all is well. It's simply not wise to spend precious time on suffering today for things that may or may not happen tomorrow. I, like you, find it hard to let go of my concerns, to leave them in the hands of professionals. So I relate to your post. At one point I consulted with my primary physician who prescribed a sleep aid (not used) and a list of therapists (also not used). No shame in seeking help for oneself. Looking back, my hubby has gone through kidney collapse, dialysis, transplant, brain surgery, etc. Occasionally, I found myself despairing, crying, anticipating the worst. But then things changed so, in retrospect, I had wasted all that time for no purpose or good reason. Over time, I found it's personally helpful to remember the old saying "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a present - live it well, live it fully. So I suggest giving your hubby a big hug and going on a nice walk or drive. Resetting our thoughts and emotions is important. Go forth and enjoy the day!

[42108 in reply to Darlenia]

Thank you for replying Darlenia, it’s put my mind at rest, just going to take every day as it comes from now on.

[CatOnACloud]

Get an appt to go over their thinking and reasons for waiting. Trust no one without good reason. You have every right to ask questions! Nicely.

[42108 in reply to CatOnACloud]

Thank you you for your reply. I’m going to ask more questions when I see his Nephrology consultant