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Anxiety pre viability scan - what are the reasons for a mmc?

Hello ladies,

I am currently 6w2d pregnant and have my viability scan on Tuesday, when I’ll be 6w5d.

I’m on progesterone support (pessaries and intramuscular injection every other day) and haven’t had even the tiniest drop of blood (yet), HCG is rising nicely....yet I’m so scared of my viability scan 😢to find out I had a mmc.

I’ve never had a miscarriage so I don’t know...at the same time I’ve never been pregnant so...

Can I please call up on those ladies who unfortunately had a mmc- what are the reasons why it happened? Maybe reading them it will help me to calm down a bit.

Thank you ❤️

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Hi I had a mmc with my first pregnancy, I found out at my 12 week scan. It was very sad and as it was my first pregnancy and first miscarriage no investigation was done so I don't know what went wrong. Normally it's something far out of our control so there's really nothing you can do, which doesn't help the anxiety about it.

I tried to take a positive from it that I knew I had the ability to get pregnant. We started trying again straight away and I now have a beautiful nearly 7 month old daughter.

Those first 12 weeks with her were so scary, when we had our scan and the sonographer said she was waving and had a heartbeat I almost didn't believe her.

Wishing you the best of luck xx

in reply to Seb9

Thank you for sharing your experience Seb. I am so sorry to hear about your mmc. 💔it must have been so hard to have a loss at 12w! I’m happy you have a beautiful daughter though now 💞💞💞💞💞💞congratulations xxx

I understand you feel this way, that you are worried, but at this stage you have no reason to think this will happen to you. Unfortunately most of us don’t know the reason of our miscarriage, simply because the Nhs won’t test until the third miscarriage in a row. It’s possible to pay to have the embryo and tissue tested to find out whether there was a particular condition, usually chromosomal conditions. Because having a miscarriage is very common in the first trimester, usually people don’t have this test done. I didn’t, I decided to bury my baby in our garden. I wanted to keep him home. But I don’t know what I would do if it happened to me again, I would probably want to find out what went wrong and investigate if there is something wrong with me or my husband that caused it. There are many conditions too that could affect a pregnancy, sometimes it’s genetic. In any case, there is absolutely nothing someone can do do avoid it, unfortunately it’s not in our control. The way I see it is, try to enjoy every single day with your baby. Don’t let worry come in the way, you are experiencing a magical moment in your life, especially because it was very much wanted for a long time. When you have negative thoughts acknowledge them, but keep them away, return to happy thoughts.

in reply to FrancyItaly

Oh, thank you Francy 💗your words really help. I am so sorry to hear about your mc 💔so sweet though that your baby is so close to you. We must be strong. I wish you all the best 🍀🤞🏻🍀🤞🏻🍀🤞🏻🍀🤞🏻💋💋💋💋💋sending lots of love ps:I hope you’re feeling better ❤️

Hey Issy as the other ladies have said it’s totally natural to worry, I think being IVFers sometimes we’re so used to things no working we keep on looking ahead to what can go wrong next. (Especially me I actually had another scan today after my viability scan the other week 🙈).

My MMC wasn’t noticed until 12 week scan, baby had just stopped developing at around 8 weeks so heartbeat had stopped and was far smaller than a 12 week baby would be 🙁. It’s hard to know reasons but I was told usually if they stop around that stage it’s often chromosomal and baby would never have been able to survive.

As best you can I would say try to not focus on the negatives, there is no reason for you to believe there is anything wrong whatsoever, so far this pregnancy everything has gone perfectly well so put some trust in yourself and your little lobster embaby 😂. Sending lots of love and luck for your scan day ♥️ x

in reply to MrsH86

Awww thank you Hun I really appreciate your words of encouragement ❤️How are you feeling? 😍yes fingers crossed my lobster baby is doing fine 🤞🏻🍀3 more sleeps and then will book another scan soon 😂😂😂I don’t care how much money it will cost me 😂😂😂I need to keep some sanity! 🍀

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😂😂 sanity 100% needed! I booked a wee 2 scan deal so got another one in a fortnight, my husband couldn’t make the ivf clinic scan as he was away for work so gave me a perfect excuse for more. Feeling full of nausea and tiredness at the moment but got to see our little baby dancing on the scan earlier so defo worthwhile 😅. Hope those 3 sleeps go quickly, looking forward to your scan update 😊♥️x

in reply to MrsH86

Good one on the scans deal👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😂😂😂i knoww I’m sooooo dragging myself around and can barely eat, I’ve even lost some weight this week which is sooo unusual for me! Thank you Hun, fingers crossed 🤞🏻🍀

Same thoughts haunting my mind at the moment. My scan isn't even booked in yet. I'm sure there's nothing to worry about. Lots of woman have miscarriages but lots dont too. Just have to try to stay positive. Xxxx

in reply to Rainbowhope

Thank you Rainbow- how are you Hun? Xx

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Hi issy. Just had a phone call confirming my scan for tomorrow at 12. I'm so scared. Trying to stay positive but dont know how I'll get through tonight. What time is yours. I'll be 6+5. Is that the same as yours?

in reply to Rainbowhope

Hey Rainbow 🌈 yes we’re the same! Mine is at 9am- we must keep strong 💪🏻 everything will be fine ❤️❤️❤️❤️Sending love!

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I had 2 mmc after natural pregnancies. The tissue was tested the 2nd time around but nothing found. I had some tests carried out before my first IVF cycle and all that showed up was a blood clotting issue. I took blood thinning injections with my IVF cycle and had a healthy baby boy. I'm pretty sure this was my issue. Wishing you all the best. xx

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Thank you for your response. I am so sorry to hear about your 2 mmc. It’s good to find out the cause so you could fix it and now you’re a mum 😍👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻Congratulations all the best xxxx

I never had a MC, but I totally understand how you feel. after 2.5 years TTC and 1.5 years of medical treatment I was finally pregnant and all I could think of was that there is only an empty sac. I have no idea where this thought came from but it was there.

It sounds stupid, but try to stop thinking about it. If something happens (I really hope all is fine!) there is absolutely nothing you can do or influence. So just try to be happy and enjoy this time.

you will not be able to enjoy your pregnancy if you worry all the time. I know it is so.much easier said than done and back then, it was causing me sleepless nights. But I learned to stop worrying (at least to a healthy extent) and now my little 2week old miracle is lying on my chest.

And always keep in mind that overall a MMC ud very rare, statistics are definitely on your side!

good luck and congratulations xx

in reply to sarahharas

Thank you Sarah. I really needed your words- they really helped letting a bit of anxiety go. Today I had less nausea than usual these days and I guess that had sparked these dark thoughts. Fingers crossed all is fine 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻Awww congrats about your little bundle of joy, I can only imagine the amazing feeling it is have him/her rest on your chest ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️Lots of love! Xxx

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From the very beginning of my pregnancy I had really sore breasts and they were really big. My husband one day made a joke, saying that they got smaller again over night. This made me so anxious that I could not sleep any more, I was a nerve wreck just thinking that I must have had a MMC. I went for a private scan and all was perfect. This was just the turning point for me, I really told myself that I will go crazy if I continue like this. What also helped me a lot -although it sounds really strange) - I liked to look at a website that tells you the risk of a MC. It us really shockingly high at the beginning, but it goes down every day and this made me feel so much better.

Thank you :-) I somehow still feel that this is only a dream and cannot be true!

You will be there sooner than you can imagine xx

Hey we had a chemical so didn't make it to our scan but like others have said, we took the positive that we could get pregnant. I reasoned with it that things are being put together that may not have found each other if not for our icsi and also that if it had progressed maybe or wouldn't have been the healthy baby we were dreaming off. I had super duper anxiety with our second bfp but the scan took the edge off. All the best for tomorrow! Xxx

in reply to HollyT7

Thank you Holly, appreciate your words. I’m so sorry for your chemical ❤️Xx

I’ve had 3 mmc at 12/13w found at 12w scans with 2 and 9w with the last but mc at 12w we had investigations but everything was fine he had sperm test that was all good too. No reason but my age. 2 were blighted and one got to 9w before baby’s heart stopped.

Hi Lovely,

I wont illiterate what everyone else is saying, I agree with everything that is said.

Try not to research to much around this it will cause you to become stressed. As others have said it can happen to anybody. I was the same during my scans panicking constantly.

Take every day as it comes.

All the best x

in reply to IMDb

Thank you so much for your kind words xx

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