Daughter behind?

[Sarahj6]

My daughter is 13 months can't walk or stand independently. She can't say any words she just screeche. My first boy walked and talked by now so I'm highly concered that I'm failing her

[Flibbertigibbet]

Don't feel like you are failing her! All children are different & develop at an age to suit them. If you are really concerned is there a health drop in you could attend, or a health visitor you could get to visit?

All of mine have been different, one of my sons wasn't speaking properly when he went to nursery but his sister at that age could write her own name!

He's now doing better at GCSE's than she did, with less effort!

Don't dispair, just enjoy her. They grow up so quickly! xx

[Sarahj6 in reply to Flibbertigibbet]

Aw thankyou hun I think I just put a lot of pressure on myself this time around. I just get emails all the time of "what milestones my child should be hitting" and she don't seem to hit any of hers :-(. I've contacted my health visitor for a check so hopefully that will put my mind on ease.

Your children sound lovely ! Hope mine grow to be like that x thankyou for your advice I really appreciate it

[Flibbertigibbet in reply to Sarahj6]

Those emails are just guidelines don't put so much pressure on yourself!

I'm sure your little ones will be lovely young adults too, they obviously have a loving caring mum & that's the best thing a child can have

Enjoy them & get lots of hugs, you don't get quite so many when they are teens

I've got a 2yr old & 3month old downs boy now too & am enjoying all the baby snuggles & not feeling the pressure to be perfect mum the way I did years ago. Life's too short.

XXX

Let me know how it goes with the health visitor.

[Just-hanging]

Every child is different, she will do things in her own time.

If you look at the framework that Nursery's follow you can see the guidelines for each age. foundationyears.org.uk/file...

I find that some babies won't do things because they don't want to rather then they can't.

My son was late with a few things like crawling but that was because he got around the way he wanted to.

My nephew didn't start walking properly until he was 15months.

Your daughter will do things when she's ready and she's still young so don't worry. Your defiantly not failing her x

[Sarahj6]

Thankyou hun I really appreciate your help and I shall read the link xx

[IsaacsMummy]

I can totally relate to you. My son is 14 months. He doesn't crawl, walk or talk. He is having physio but there's nothing actually wrong, he's just taking his time. Have you felt under pressure from your health visitor and other mums? I always feel like people are judging me, thinking that I'm lazy.

[Sarahj6 in reply to IsaacsMummy]

God yes ! I feel like you've just described my daughter ! I have a assessment from my health visitor next week she hasn't been physio yet but I reckon she needs something now. She gets super frustrated by not being able to do things. And yh I feel judgement from other mums with babies same age if not younger they always say " oh still not walking then" and my mother in law says *there might be a something wrong with her hips* which makes me feel even worse. I'm hoping she's just a late one but got that mummy gut feeling something is wrong. It's nice to know there are more like me out there! Wishing you the vet with your son xx

[IsaacsMummy in reply to Sarahj6]

Yeah it's definitely nice to know you're not the only one. The physio hasn't really done much to be honest, just shown us some exercises to try. Hope all goes well! X

[Dad101]

Your not failing anyone! Children develop at different times. I'm sure in a few months you'll look back on this and hopefully you'll have been panicking over nothing. The fact that your concerned means your not failing your child in the slightest!

[roxannacar]

I've been super concerned with my daughter as she only she just started to walk at 16 months. She'd walk around on furniture but refuse to. Move. I think it was just a matter of confidence. My health visitor had told me they are not concerned that baby isn't walking till age 18months but before that it's normal variation. 13 months is actually v young and has plenty of time to catch up!

[Sarahj6 in reply to roxannacar]

Thankyou hun made me feel more reassured xx