MS Winter cold...yikes...

[jackiesj]

I send my thoughts prayers and hope this winter craziness you have the shelter and love you need. Ideas for comfort are so individual. One month Im lidocaine patched like a mummy...heating blanket under me and ice on me? Its a body menopause!.......Speaking of Men O Pause....spouse fully retired and dealing sadly with that. 2 days and his depression from before has exceeded nightmares....Cant say get hobbies or try this or anything explosions occur so...doing my thing definitely...to keep out of pain and brain smart. well mostly. Furr babies a God send. since this weather looking to others for inspiration...

a very good to do book: 250 brief creative and practical Art Therapy Techniques Susan IBuchalter

on amazon.....each time i do one i find out something i didnt know...even used it with my grands...Love thier art! keep wam and i hope you feel better...

[CatsandCars]

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's retirement and subsequent worsening depression. Depression can be hell for the person going through it, but also for the people they live with. I'm glad you're staying warm, though. This cold weather has been extreme to say the least! 🥶

[AquaZumbaFan]

I dread my husband’s retirement.. he reduced his hours to part time 2 years ago but having to pay double for the insurance was killing us.. luckily for my son who had just bought his first home ( a fixer upper) hubby had plenty to do for a while.. he just went back to full time benefits last week to reduce the bleed of money.. he has less time to fuss with daughter ( who is home in training , getting clinical hours for her job) life is just better when he works a little more..is your hubby being treated for his depression? It is a huge transition to retire.. it really was tough for me as I didn’t see it happening for me for at least another 5-7 years.. can’t do patient care and walk with a cane and if you can’t keep up cognitively with the 22 year olds learning new procedures.. it’s time to go.. I love my life now though.. maybe if he goes to the gym the endorphins will help.. it helped me significantly.. I was making a pair of pants in November with the lidocaine patches before I got my epidural injection .. sending good thoughts your way 🙏🏼❄️🤗

[jackiesj in reply to AquaZumbaFan]

Tuesday he yelled about me WHERE i should eat..i told him it was in appropriate to do that..Wednesday he yelled about WHEN or when i didnt eat...Thursday night he threw a fit again on WHAT I eat.. need i say more..i have had to leave for safety..How do you get a man to go to a doctor?

[AquaZumbaFan in reply to jackiesj]

We have been fortunate that my husband has joined us in family counseling.. we are working on issues involving the adult daughter who is in training to be a qualified mental health professional and me.. he can be a hot mess but actually seems to listen to our counselor who ironically has MS as well.. we just had another session this morning virtually.. we have been doing this since last June periodically

[jackiesj in reply to AquaZumbaFan]

I have a counsler but he wont. glad it helped...

[AquaZumbaFan in reply to jackiesj]

I am so sorry , he finally joined us after almost 29 years of marriage.. keep seeing your counselor for your own benefit

[AquaZumbaFan in reply to AquaZumbaFan]

Ps he sounds like he is having some serious control issues ❤️🙏🏼❤️sending the prayers to you my friend

[Hest19 in reply to jackiesj]

Joining a church group helped my husband so much with his negativity and anger. They have “life groups” for men, women, or couples. And to join a life groups, our church does not require that the person belong to a church. My husband went through a weekly meeting to start with every Saturday morning called “Authentic Manhood” where men learn to talk to each other and relate with one another. It helped him so much because he is not one who is able to communicate his feelings. Hearing other men share their problems helped give him a voice. They speak confidentially so I don’t know what all they talk about and I don’t ask. He still not good at communicating with me but he much more at peace with himself and life. Good luck. 🤗

[stepsforNeeC]

Prayers and stay strong my friend 🙏 Peace NeeC

[hopeandgrace]

so sorry to hear about his depression, praying 🙏🏼

and I agree- even if he won’t go, hope you can still go to counseling without him

[jackiesj in reply to hopeandgrace]

yes, im thankful that i do...it has protected me somewhat also.ty