I haven't spoken to or seen my older sister for 6 years now. We had a huge falling out and I just found out yesterday that she passed away February last year. I had been trying to get back in contact with her to work things out. She had moved from where I knew she lived and blocked me on Facebook and her phones. I am so numb and I am not handling this very well. I am now trying to figure out how to reach out to her husband and sons but not sure how to do this. I have a younger sister who I have had a falling out and we have not talked in 24 years. I am would like to find her and work things out with her before it's too late. This search so far has not been easy. My family has always been such a mess and I always want us to be close be it's not been. Sorry for airing my dirty laundry but this place has been a safe place for me to talk.
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I’m so sorry to hear about your loss and may God’s promise be fulfilled in your life. I will be praying for your peace and comfort during this difficult time. God bless🙏🏾
I'm sorry for your loss.
I hope you can find & work things out with your other sister.
Thank you. I will spend today working on a prayer shawl for my churches prayer shawl ministry
Sounds like a nice project.
It will be big and several different colors
How big do you make them?
What media do you use?
Some of them are are 30 by 60 inches some bigger and when I do a triangle one it veries depending on the yarn or pattern. I prefer to make big projects
That is interesting.
Are there certain colors that are used?
All sorts of colors and when we make a special piece we let the recipient pick the color or colors they want
Nice!
Please post a photo when you are done
I will
I am so sorry for your loss, Turtlepie
I would reach out and start fresh. It's will not be easy but nothing worth doing truly is
I am going to try but today is just going to be filled with Netflix and crocheting. Thank you
My thoughts and prayers go out to you
Thank you so much
i am so sorry for the loss of your sister ...i know where you are coming from always wanting a wonderful relationship with all of the family but sometimes they just don't want to listen to our problems and think we are just being a little childish when trying to explain our problems living with this disease but again that is what happened with a cousin of mine ...she was causing lots of stress and i just couldn't deal with it and wow did she take it wrong and we haven't spoken since...it is sad that because we don't want to deal with the stress and they think we just don't care...well it was with her and having problems with other family members and i tried to say if they bother you so bad just visit with the rest of us but she didn't take as a way to deal with them ...i just don't understand ....love and understanding with love and so much more happiness..
Thank you so much. I find comfort speaking out here and doing my crocheting. I don't know if I will ever get in touch with my other sister but if I don't I know now who has my back. Prayers and God's blessings
Pray you get in touch with mental and emotional well being about your older sister. My older sister passed in May of 2014. I cherish all our memories and conversations. I care deeply about the trials you are going through. May God continue to protect and keep you. I apologize for not responding sooner. ♥️
Turtlepie I'm so sorry for your loss! It must be a shock for you. 🤗🤗 Think of the good times you had with your sister 💖 not of the negitive! ~May She Be Wrapped In The Wings Of Angels and Placed In The Hands of God~
Much Love🤗💕🌠
I have had a similar problem with some of my siblings. I lost my older sister about this time last year. We had not spoken in a long time 10-15 years. She had some health issues that contributed to that but she cut me out long before. Two of my brothers I have strained, almost non existent, communication with. They have hurt me deeply. I’ve tried to reach out. One doesn’t respond and the other sometimes responds, but it’s just “we are good; take care” kinda thing.
The entire situation all came to head last year, and was probably around the time that I had a huge relapse that ultimately lead to my diagnosis. I certainly could have handled things better and have tried to apologize. They don’t take any responsibility for anything.
I love them, but for my emotional/mental and now physical health, I have had to take a huge step back.
My sisters death was so painful and opened up all the old wounds that I had tried so hard to forget.
I hear and feel your pain.
Thank you so much. Reading your struggles that are so much like mine makes me not feel so alone. I hope I will be able to get in touch with my other sister. I just don't want to feel like this for a second time. This is so much more than I thought I would ever feel. And being weak from the mavenclad and getting this upset has really caused me some problems today nothing major but I am trying to focus on my movies and working on my prayer shawl
You are not alone, but i can totally relate as to why you feel that way. MS has really affected me emotionally and I made some bad decisions this past year based off emotions. My best advice would be not to do that. When I get upset about anything now, but particularly family, I have to sit on it for a day or two and calm down.
Even tho my brothers really hurt me, I’ve tried to be as graceful as I can and admit to and apologize for my mistakes between us. I wanted soooo badly to make things right. They are not willing to afford me that same grace and that is why I have had to step back.
I hope that you and your sister can find some resolution. Looking up appraisals records (like county appraisals) in the county where she lives might help locate a possible mailing address.
It seems like so many of us have strained relationships with our siblings. In my family also. 3 women and I am the middle. My younger sister hadn't spoke to my older in probably over 10 years. She held grudges. During the older's passing the younger was present. Now the younger has not treated me very well for the past 1 1/2. We had no falling out. She really treated me bad not long after my diagnosis when I went to the state she and my mother live in for a visit. She was mean and didn't spend time with me. I cut my visit short, bought a plane ticket and came home. We still talk but it's not the same. I can't participate in her drama. Maybe she'll figure out on her own why she is doing this and be nicer.
I never imagined that so many more have similar family problems. It makes me hopeful that I have others that understand what I am going through. Prayers for you and all of us dealing with this situation
I think the reason it hurts so much is because they are our siblings, the ones we shared a home with, played dolls, ball, in the dirt, watched cartoons with and now some treat strangers better. It's sad. But I don't think its like some shows portray, or a front people put on. Families are complicated. The saddest part for me is that my two sons haven't spoke in about 3 years and they're too stubborn to fix it.
My son's are not speaking either and my daughter is stuck in the middle and she is the youngest trying to stay in contact with them both I just hope that my sons will be able to make things right between them before it's too late
Sorry to hear that. I used to feel like I was walking on eggshells if I mentioned something about the other one in front of one. But now I decided I'm just going to freely talk about each one of them. Maybe this will keep them somewhat connected and in the future they'll speak again. That good what your daughter is doing, keeping connected.
I am in your daughters shoes, however now the two brothers have bonded and I am the enemy 🙄
That's a shame I hope you all work things out
We must love each other, including our enemies and try our best to be peacemakers. If you don’t, you will regret it later. You should get some comfort that God & many people care about all of this suffering whether family member or friend. Keep hope and pray for reconciliation. We all go through various trials and tribulations, but God is there. He will never forsake you
I am so sorry for your loss. 🙏🏻🙏🏻 prayers for you.
Family is tricky and you are welcome to vent here anytime about anything. In the end - it all effects our MS.
My oldest sister disowned me. My other sister wouldnt allow me to go to our mothers funeral and my brother has spoken to me in years for i dunno y.
I have play nice with the middle sister cuz she is my dads care taker now so if i wanna talk to my dad - i have to go threw her.
So yay. I so feel ur pain. And am always here for u to vent to
Thank you so much. So many going through the same thing. And is sure does effect our MS. I am really paying for my emotional upset today
Ya when i cudnt go to my moms funeral it was awful on my ms. But by the time my oldest sister disowned me (she pretty much raised me) i had learned my lesson. I went threw all the steps of grieving as fast as i cud - vented on here A LOT - i kept my ms under control.
I will not let this keep me down just today I can't think and I am just going to be a couch potato
That is the best thing u can do. Chill and process and know u can always come here as things pop into ur head. Better to get it all out and not let it fester. But mostly chill. 💜💜
Great advice. I am going to just do that today
Sorry for your loss I pray that u find your family
I am so sorry, but as the old saying goes we can choose our friends but we cannot choose our family’. Please do not stress yourself, grieve yes, just remember the good times you had together, it’s sad news for you to digest, but you will in time. As for your younger sister, put it in Gods hands, enjoy your crocheting and enjoy Rue and Mack. Rest up, and I hope the Mavenclad is working out well for you this time. Big hug, blessings Jimeka 🤗 💐 💜🙏
Sorry to hear of your sister's passing. I hope you are able to find your other sister and reconnect. Best wishes to you 🌼
Sorry to hear about your loss. Hope you find your other sister.
Wrap one of your lovely prayer shawls around you as you pray. Encircled by its warmth, may you find the healing you seek.
I am very sorry for the loss of your sister. I hope that you will be able to get in touch with the other sister and the 2 of you will be able to work things out. Feel free to vent whenever you need, we are here for you.
You can try True people search. You may be able to get an address or phone number for them.
i am so sorry for your loss. I will pray you get through thishard time in your life.
Warm thoughts,
Leslie
Thank you so much
My Sister also passed recently and I didn't know when to contact her Family but after a short period of time I called.
I have been thinking about getting in touch with her husband and sons but I just don't know what to say or do. I will think on it more and then decide.
Whatever you decide to do will be the right thing to do.They know it's also very hard for you.
Thank you. Right now I have to be a bit selfish and think about what I need I am going to start round 2 of year 2 of mavenclad Wednesday
I used to tell people - long before i had MS - that i was “self involved”. Its not selfish. But a more accurate description of doing what u need to do in ur world. Cuz lets face it - it is ur world and everyone else is just living in it. Ya know?
Its like worrying about what other people think of u. Thats their problem. U cant control their thoughts. And if they are thinking about u - wow. How boring their lives must be.
Bottom line - do what u gotta do to live your best life and dont worry about anyone else
Thank you.
Anytime. You are going thru some drama and there is nothing i know better than what that is like. I went thru some of my worst times in life before ever being diagnosed. When i found out i had MS (after coming out of shock) i laughed and had a pina colado
I want a Pina colada. But right now I will have to settle for some wine
I had to give up wine after my hysterectomy. Gives me migraines. Sooooo bummed cuz i was a total wino 🍷🍷
My pcp wants me to go on cholesterol lowering meds but said I would have to give up alcohol if I do. If I lose weight my cholesterol is good just having a hard time losing the weight
Same here!! Stupid steroids.
I know wish there was something else that could knock our MS back into shape.
For reals!
I am 63 years old and been dealing with this disease since 1993 but didn't get a definite diagnosis till 2002. Have had a lot of steroids over the years.
I had a head injury march 1 2013 and diagnosed march 10 2014. I got lucky to have an eccentric but awesome neuro. But thinking back i have had signs since my 20s. It just went bonkers after i got hurt
I bet it is hard to understand this crazy disease. I went a little really a lot bonkers after my diagnosis. After I got off all the psychiatric meds I started doing better
I am on prozac. I tried to ween off but did more harm then good so i am sticking with it. Its my happy pill 😁
Got to be happy
I am so sorry to hear this! What a difficult time for you.
Love and prayers to you. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. We are here for you! Linda
So sorry for your loss. Prayers for you that you can find your family. My heart goes out to you. I know what it's like to not talk to a sister. My sister & I had a falling out 25 years ago. It's just been within the past couple of years that I have been reaching out to her. Thankfully she has been receptive. I didn't get to tell my mother goodbye before she passed as we hadn't spoken in years either. So I asked God for forgiveness for my part of the problems. My sister and I are building up a better than ever relationship, so I hope you can find yours. Prayers for you for the peace and comfort God has for us all.
Thank you so much. It is comforting to hear from you all
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