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My sister is dying

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As many already know, my sister is dying of cirrhosis brought on by 45 years of very heavy drinking and having Hep C and not knowing it. The Hep C was cured a couple of years ago, but my sister continues to decline. Now, all she does is lay in bed and moan in pain. She reaches for things that are not there and talks to people who are not there. She will barely eat a thing anymore. Can somebody tell me when is time to throw in the towel and not make her suffer anymore? Can we request comfort care be given at home? I won't put her into a nursing facility unless I absolutely don't have any other choice. She's my sister. Thanks

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Call home hospice and they will come and help take care of her at home 🏑. My brother in law and several friends have done the same thing. It gets a little ugly, but they keep you comfortable. It is sad 😒 but it is what you do. They will not put you on a a list when you’re an alcoholic and have done so much damage. You’re liver shuts down and you basically drown on your own fluids 😞. Try to stay positive and get some help to make her comfortable, it’s about all you can do πŸ‘πŸ™πŸΎ. Ken

Hospice is wonderful! My dad died of cancer and was at home until the end. They were good for/with him and us. Highly recommend them!

Praying πŸ™πŸ½ for you and your sister. I agree to check on Hospice. Doing that might give you and your sister comfort.

So very sorry! I know what you’re talking about. Hospice for sure!

You are obviously doing the best that you can for her. I will pray that the Lord will release her of her pain and discomfort. Hold her hand and tell her that you love her, she is maybe frightened of dying, and she maybe needs comforting. I will also pray for strength for you, it is a very hard time for you. Stay strong, you are a good sister, Blessings Jimeka πŸ¦‹ πŸ™ 🌈

So sorry U & her are goin thru this, I too Pray w/Jemika tht her pain subsides, she Repents of all sins & truly asks Yahshua to Forgive her, & to help her, u've got alot of awesum advice from many here! I Pray you get some hospice help too.πŸ˜πŸ‘πŸ™πŸ™πŸ˜»πŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ’›πŸ’—πŸ’–Many Blessings to You!---Jazmine

Prayers for your sister and for you. It's so difficult to watch those we love suffer, but I've found that even though it's awful to go through, in the end we do it because we love them so much and it's the right thing to do. When all is said and done, you will be glad you can say you did everything you could for her.


I’m sorry for you, your sister, and loved ones. It’s so painful to watch soneone we love suffer. Your sister is so blessed to have someone like you with her now.

You’re all in my prayers. I hope hospice can help with care for all of you. Please keep in touch to let us know how you’re doing.

I'm so sorry hun about ur sister. Do u have hospice at home in the States? Xxx xxx πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

My heart goes out to you and family. As stated above, hospice will be the best! They'll come to you.

So sorry for ur families pain. Hospice be a great help. They will know how to make her more comfortable and that will help u as well. πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»


yes you can ask for palliative careI lost my dad and my sister both drinking so I know what you're talking about

So very sorry for what you are both going through. I agree that hospice would be a great help for you both. Is there a residential hospice near you? Praying for a peaceful passing for your sister. You are the kind of sibling everyone needs and many don’t have.

I am new to this site and gave not commented before. But your message touched me. I am so sorry you are going through this as I know how helpless you feel watching her suffer. I took care of my brother and my mom at the end of their lives and I feel your pain. Hospice can help ease your sister's pain and help her and you through this. I was a hospice volunteer until my MS progressed. Having had the honor of being present when my patients died I truly felt a spiritual presence and peace come over them. In the week prior to their passing both my mom and my brother had conversations with people I could not see. When I asked who they saw both told me family who had passed long ago. This made them smile and I personally believe they knew they would have family waiting to help them. Once I went through hospice training I learned that was a normal occurrence. Sorry I tend to ramble on and on. Keeping you and your family in my prayers. Take careπŸ’•

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A very warm welcome to u deecaf, to our wonderful, supportive family of M.S. Warriors! Here you'll get the most caring, awesum knowledgable advice, & super loving people that get it! Much Blessings to u & we can't wait to get to know u better.πŸ’–πŸ˜πŸ™πŸ˜»---Jazmine

Sorry for your situation (s) you’re going through. Give her your love and get home hospice. Don’t forget about your self. You have my prayers for you and your sister πŸ™.

So sorry and will keep your sister & your family in prayer for courage, strength and peace. May angels surround your family, but most of all the love and mercy of Jesus.

Peace in Christ crucified.


So sorry to hear what you're going through with your sister.

She's so very lucky to have you.


So Sorry to hear what Your Sister is going through,Hope and Pray that You both get the help that You need.

Strength to you and yours! Are you the only family member there with her? I assume you have power of attorney for personal care, if you are worrying about what to do and when to do it! Try and tell yourself that whatever you decide, it is the very best decision, and at the very best time. You know in your heart that you are doing everything FOR your sis. Don't ever question that!

Praying for y'all through this very difficult time. πŸ™

May God be with you to strengthen you to continue caring for your sister. You are a loving sister. May He be with your sister to ease her pain and comfort her.


I pray for God’s Peace to wrap your family and especially You in Jesus Loving Arms. There is really nothing more to say except that β€œinvisible forces on the internet are on your side” meaning all of the people who have reached out to you who you have never met and probably never will meet- but who shed a tear for the loss of someone who is truly unknown to them.

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