My beloved ms family. Checking through my e-mail today I came across a message saying that it is hard to ask for help. This struck me as odd and I wondered about my own situation. Can I ask for help? I ask for it and use us it sometimes. Sometimes maybe I do not. I think that I am often aware of my limitations. I have had many years to observe what I can and cannot do. I am very willing to say that I can not do something and not do it. I know when I am pushing myself and have gone too far, BUT do “YOU”?
“YOU” likely have not had my many years of learning and observing yourself in different situations, different climates. “YOU” my ms sibling are going to have to ask for help, sometimes. “YOU” are going to have to admit vocally, that NO I CANNOT DO THAT. Be aware that just because “YOU” did something today or could in the past. That does not mean that “YOU” can do it in the future. I am NOT suggesting that “YOU” just give up on yourself and everything.
I am suggesting that “YOU” try. Try your best, try harder, but if “YOU” can not do something, that “YOU” admit your limitations and ask for help. Be humble, “YOU” and I are sick. We cannot ufo everything that we once could. At least not always. I avoid using knives because of my inability to see them or control them. I prefer my fingers so I ask for help cutting things. It took a little while to accept that as an adult man I needed help cutting my meat at a restaurant, but eventually, I did, and “YOU” can as well. Admit your weakening abilities, find ways around them. Eating take out at home, picking a meatball over a steak are some options that “YOU” might consider. Think outside the box. “YOU” and I,are in a strange situation. This illness can do many weird and not so wonderful things to us. Tone your ego down a little and allow yourself to ask for help, admit to yourself and others that “YOU” may not have the abilities that “YOU” once had. This does NOT make “YOU” lesser of a person or one to be ridiculed or shunned. It makes “YOU” somebody who accepts yourself, warts and all. “YOU” are a good person, a worthwhile individual. “YOU” have value. “YOU” merely are different than “YOU” used to be and sometimes have to say, “Help me”. If “YOU” need help, set your ego aside and ask for it. Do not assume that people will immediately see it and come running to your side. They may not see it, they may not come running to your side, unless “YOU” ask them.
Use your voice. Ask for help when “YOU” need it. We all need a little help sometimes it is part of the human condition.
Royce (your ms writer and Brother)
never be afraid to ask for help, or so I can’t do that
