Family sucks

[mbrooks20]

I asked my sister to take me to the hospital 2 times. Once because I was puking up blood and then because I couldn't walk or feel my legs. She didn't take me either time which I did not get mad about. It was no big deal because I got a way. I get home from my 1-week stay in the hospital and am going through a relapse when she calls me crying saying that she is sorry she never took me to the hospital and that she is sorry she works and supports her family and she is sorry that she doesn't drop everything for everyone. She hung up on me and I have not heard from her in a week. I felt guilty and I don't know why. I guess I no longer have a sister since she has blocked me. Sorry for the rant but I had to do it.

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You are not responsible for your sister's actions.

Does she maybe think you are mad about her not taking you?

Do you want a relationship with her?

Maybe a card telling her how you feel would help, if you want a relationship with her.

[Kenu]

I know you’re feeling 😣. I live 250 miles from my brother and when I go to Pocatello I always make time to go see him. He has been up here to Boise four times and hasn’t even called me 🤷🏼‍♂️. Last time here for four days and no call. He is also bad at returning calls. So I finally text him with my feelings about what has gone on, not really mad, just disappointed 😔. Been a month and haven’t heard anything 🤷🏼‍♂️. Time to move on. I have three other friends from Pocatello that have been here and made the time to come see me 👍. They are more family than my brother 🤷🏼‍♂️. Hope things work out 🙏😉 Ken 🐾🐾

[goatgal in reply to Kenu]

Sometimes the families we are born into are not able to act in caring and supportive ways. To focus on our anger, disappointment, and frustration is both unhealthy and unproductive. Fortunately, when our birth families disappoint us, we can form enduring networks outside the ties of blood, creating other kinds of families. Often, friends become closer and dearer to us than siblings because of the mutual support and affection shared.

[falalalala]

Sounds like she is the one who's feeling guilty.

As Cabycat said ,you are not responsible for your sister's actions.

[Peruzzot in reply to falalalala]

I was thinking the same thing. She feels guilty because she can't drop everything for you and now feels even more guilty or maybe even ashamed of her outburst on you. If she's cut off contact with you that's on her not you. Keep trying to have a relationship with her if that's what you really want. Otherwise move on.

[carolek572 CommunityAmbassador]

That would break my heart if my sister turned her back on me. You cannot control what she does or says, but you can always forgive her.

Carole

[kdali]

I don’t have one anymore either and it’s been the biggest relief of drama and negativity in my life. My family taught me at a very young age that blood is meaningless half of the time.

She called you to make you feel bad, and she was successful.

[jimeka]

You can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family. Don’t stress about the situation it will only make your ms worse, blessings Jimeka 🤗

[hairbrain4]

I hope you know you are not responsible for your sister's actions. Family can be so cruel. I went through all that with my sister & my mom. I was always the "black sheep" of the family. My sister & I have finally reconciled after 20 years. My mother & I need er did & she passed away a very lonely person. I had decided that I wasn't going to be around negative people even if they were family. It was hard at first but my well being was more important. At that time I didn't know I had MS, I was just diagnosed with chronic fatige syndrome. I couldn't take the stress even then because it took everything I had to get out of bed to go to work. So please take care of yourself & just pray for your family. It worked for me. Praying for you.

[mrsmike9]

It sounds like she might have needed to unburden herself. She did it and she feels better, leaving you in a rather confusing place! No doubt you said something like, oh, it's okay, which helped HER. Fine. She's done. Now you can set her aside and take care of You. Not sure why you're feeling guilty but let it go! You have to take care of you. Let her go on her miserable way.