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Who is gonna zip me up?

Hello. I hope this finds everyone well.

I have not been around for awhile.

My husband went home to be with the Lord in April of this year. Although, I knew for months he would not be long for this wrold.

It was still a shock.

So. I want to ask everyone reading this post a favor.

Please, get your affairs in order. It may seem morbid. But, trust me when I say... .

It is one of the greatest gifts you can give to your family.

Our dawgs ( d-o-g-s thats for folks that carry them around in tiny bags) have been a great comfort.

Enjoy the new pic of LooCee in her fav position

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I am so sad for your loss, Atlproctor . Yes, I agree with you, please please please get your affairs in order before you pass away. Your family/loved ones will certainly appreciate your efforts. I am slowly decluttering my home, partly because I am thinking of moving to a smaller home, but mostly because I do not want to leave my mess to others for them to take care of. Yuck. I don't want to clean up someone else's stuff (I use that term loosely) after they pass. It's not funny.

And thank you for making me smile with the silly photo of LooCee. She is adorable! :-D

Keep Smiling,

Carole :-D

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You're welcome. And thank you for all that you've said here. Your words are very caring. And the dawgs do keep me laughing!

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I am here for you, in this forum. :-D

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. I can hardly imagine the heartbreak you've been feeling.

Thank you for posting about this and for the need to have things in order for those left behind. I realized I need to have everything clearly lined out for doing things like paying bills, as I do that, and my poor husband would have no clue where to begin. In case of a relapse, I could need help as my cognition is affected, too.

Hug your dog for the great companion she is.

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Greaterexp, you are right. Both my dogs do not let me dwell on sad things for to long. They're very good companions. And you're right please everyone get your affairs in order. The next day is not guaranteed.

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Lucky with my wife passing a couple weeks ago we had almost everything lined out 👍. Now it’s time to change my will a little bit so that my son won’t have to 🙏. When my dad died they had nothing done and it made things really hard 😞. I helped my mom and she actually went and paid for her burial in advance at a big discount so we would not have the same problem. Just little things like having your titles labeled with both names with the word OR not and. Then it’s already in your name and doesn’t have to go thru court or lawyer to change. Find out NOW there are lots you can do to protect your belongings so you don’t have to share with government! 🙏😉Ken 🐾🐾

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Kenu, I am sorry about your wife.

I totally understand.

TY for explaining what happens when you don't things spelled out.

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Thanks 🙏 Ken

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Thanks for the good advice. Definitely need to check a few things. Hope you are doing ok. My prayers are with you.

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Thanks, it’s getting little better 🙏😉 Ken

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Kenu, sorry to hear about your wife thanks for the additional insight into what we can do to make "surviving" a little easier.

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So sorry to hear about your husband. It doesn't matter how old he was and whether or not you anticipated it.

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IFwczs, you are right.

How are you BTW?

It was a shock.

I still wake up expecting him to be right next to me.

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I cannot imagine what you are going through. My dad died at 39 a gruesome death of pancreatic cancer. What are you doing for grief counseling?

I have started a new MS chapter. As I suspected, my inability to walk without assistance is not due to MS, but the steroids they had me on a couple of years ago. So my new doctor started me on candida treatment. I cannot recommend enough the book by Ann Boroch "Healing Multiple Sclerosis" and thank enough Jazinco who recommended it to me. It should be a must-read for all of the MS patients. If you haven't yet, do read it (and it will also take your mind off your sorrow temporarily).

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IFwczs, I will read it.

I joined a widows group.

Thank you for asking. Although most of the members of the group are significantly older than I am... .

It has helped a great deal. Wow I'm so sorry about your father. 39 is really too young.

My husband was 58.

I am in my late 40's.

I was in my mid-20's when I was diagnosed with MS. Staying grounded and my beliefs as a Christian have helped alot.

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My God, 58 is really young! If you don't mind me asking, what happened?! My husband is 58, and I am 45.

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IFwczs, no i dont mind.

My husband had cancer. He was diagnosed more than 10 years ago with prostate cancer. It changed about 2 years ago into non small cell cancer. October of last year his oncologist detected a large tumor between his bladder and his colon. And it was suggested that we go ahead and call in hospice care.

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Atlproctor, I am so sorry to hear that. As a daughter of a pancreatic cancer patient, I can agree that there is probably nothing worse. But he beat it for more than 10 years, right? And he had you by his side. I don't know if you believe in this kind of stuff, but you may see him some day sooner than you think. Just keep an open mind. And read the book!

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You're in my prayers.

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TY, greaterexp

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I'm sorry about your loss .

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falalalala, how are you?

Thank you for your kind words.

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I'm well, thanks:)

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Sorry to hear about your loss.

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Thank you so much fieldplanner.

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It is something that we all dread in the back of our minds, loosing our closest loved one. My dad had prostrate cancer but a heart attack got him first, which I was grateful for as he went very quickly in the end. So I am so sorry for what you have had to endure. God says that everything happens for a reason, one day we will understand why but until then we plod on, keeping faith and living and enjoying each day, no matter how hard. Your two dogs will help you through this. I will post a picture for you in the hope it may bring a little warmth to your heart. Blessings as always, Jimeka 🤗

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Jimeka, thank you for shaing your story.

I really appreciate it

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I am sorry for your loss. Even when expected, it’s hard. The grieving process is the same no matter what. So glad your pup is with you. I pray you find peace. We are all here for you. Please let us know what we can do - I wanted emotional support. Just ask.

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Floridagirl58, thank you for the prayers. Honey, I need them!

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I am so sorry for your lost. My sister lost her husband of 56 years in May. Her little dog has been a great comfort to her. I'm glad you have two to keep you company. And yes, I totally agree - get your affairs in order. My sister is finding things she never knew her husband done and purchased. He paid the bills and she is at a loss.

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OMG. I am sorry for her.

From the moment that my husband was diagnosed with cancer he began to tell me about anything and everything he could think of as far as our finances were concerned. He explained to me the process of planning a funeral. He told me what to say to our lawyers. And he told me what to do about any bills left behind. It is a loving thing to have someone help you with this.

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oh my, I am so very sorry for your loss,I can't, don't want to imagine how tragic this is for you.My father in law just passed away from pancreitis(infection made his blood septus).what an important organ we don't think about .my prayers are with you

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Pamgarner, thank you for your prayers.

My husband fought as long as he could. But the body can only take so much.

I tell everyone he was a fighter.

Honey, he went down swingin'.

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So very sorry for your loss, but great advice for all of us to make sure all our affairs are in order. Hubby and I just completed the process a couple of weeks ago, and while you feel really weird and morbid at times, it’s quite a relief knowing all the decisions have been made and family won’t have to deal with it.

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EXACTLY, Texandyroe. No one wants to leave a mess behind.

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I am so sorry. I know your pups will help keep you sane.

Greyhound? My daughter has one! He doesn't sleep like that though!

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Mrsmike9buffering, no she is a great dane. The dogs have been a huge help. But you know what's interesting is they went through a period of mourning themselves.

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I'm sure they did. Animals miss people and sense when things aren't right. I'm glad you have them through such a tough time.

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mrsmike9buffering. GM. Thank you. Truly they been a great help.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

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Riamia, thank you for taking time to say nice things to me.

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I also wanted to say you are 100% correct about having our affairs in order. I don’t want my husband or daughter to have to worry. I did a will about 8 years ago and I often talk of my wishes. I also wanted to say I’m here for you if you need someone to talk with.

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Riamia, you are so kind.

What a loving thing you did by actually putting a Will together. But it's also a loving thing that you're doing by talking about your wishes every now and then.

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Sorry for your loss. I really can only imagine what you are going through. Thank you for reminding everyone how important it is to have things in order or at the very least in writing, signed & notarized if able. My husband & I have done that much. We realized it needed to be done 7 years ago when he almost died due to complications from heart surgery. We have medical directives along with personal property directives. Prayers for peace.

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Hairbrain4, you are doing/have done such an important thing. How are you BTW?? Planning is such a loving, mature, and reasonablething to do.

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I agree with you. I just got my 3rd cast on in 3 weeks. First 2 slid off, hope this one stays on, they did it differently this time.

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Hairbrain4 I am sure it will stay put.

Try to take it easy.

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My prayers also for your husband,you and your family. Never easy and always a hole in Your heart. Hopefully sweet memories and family and faith (as well as your sweetie pie) will be with you on this journey.

I know what inspired me, I did not want to be put in a box on top of the TV or back of the closet.

Everything done, mass readings for church, songs, power of atty. Still that pile of pictures and things to be shredded, but manageble. Trying to do family historty/memories of grandparents. Hardest to tackle

Most of all preparing my soul and hopefully family will do likewise.

Peace and joy in the midst of your sorrow.

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Brindisi1 how are you?

I am having a scrapbook put together.

I do not have the skill to do it myself.

Thank you for your kind words.

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Morbid, I don't think so. Just uploading the spirit to the cloud.

Keep on the sunny side!

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Ck722 I appreciate your words. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

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So so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for your sweet words of wisdom. I have a lot to do in that regard

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Livewell2 thank you.

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Sorry for your loss..the harder and closer it does get the more junk around I see.Grief classes or meetings can be important.I cant tell what kind of a "pup" this is..just huge!

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Jacckiesj how are you? Were you a pro clown? Wow. You mean my dog? My dog is a great dane.

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Yes!I have been a card carrying COAI member for 16 yrs.I woke up couldn't walk.MS diagnosis, made it to crutches, walker and thought I was nuts when I I asked God, what do I do now...I heard clown!OK really thought I was sick...but started classes because if you fall in regular clothes there is pity but in a costume..fun fun fun...Heat got to me but still a member.I wouldn't have been a clown without MS?!Ive performed for the MS society of idaho, do care facilities(because they have a nursing staff! and food!)Im stuck right now but hope to get back.TY for asking.what do you get when you mix a snowman and a vampire...frostbite silly!

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Ok jackiesj no one is in the house but Me and the dogs. But I had a belly laugh with that joke. I think that's wonderful that you heard our Lord's voice so clearly. He gave you an answer to your question. So simple.

I did the same thing. And I have to tell you for 20 years I knew what He wanted me to do. It has only been over the last month that I have been obedient. So many things have really turned around and I smile more. Why? B/C I have been doing it.

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Jackiesj GM

How are you?

Ok, it is early but what is "pup"?

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oh who knows what I wrote.pup usually means dog for me...it is grt to have you here...1

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Thank you.

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Hi Atlproctor

I'm sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers. God's blessings❤becky

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Beckylp54 good morning. I hope you are feeling good. Thank you some much.

Everyone has offered me such kindness.

It really is a wonderful thing!

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