tell people everyday you care

[pamgarner]

I had a girlfriend of 25 years commit suicide this week and it has made me think,we really don't know the dark places people are in,we need to tell our love ones everyday we love them.Her and I had kind of drifted the last couple of years because of life circumstances, I wish I would have been a better friend.so it reminds me no matter what we are going through that day,you have the ability to change the world for someone else by listening or a smile.and if you feel there is no hope,please reach out to someone,you are the world to someone.sometimes it seems the physical pain will never end but there are other types of pain,I pray that I am more aware of others pain

[Rileymom]

I’m sorry for your loss and your friend was in such pain. Blessings to all

[pamgarner in reply to Rileymom]

thank you,miss her

[jimeka]

Pam, I am so sorry about your friend, there are so many souls committing suicide, is it a sign of the times? It must have been a hard place to be in, but you know yourself with having ms, dark feelings can come upon us at anytime. It shows great strength to end your own life, but the knowledge of my own faith forbids it, even though I could some days contemplate it. I hope and pray that the Lord has had mercy on your friends soul and please do not and I repeat, do not, beat yourself up about been a better friend. We never know what the person or stranger is having to face in their daily lives and as you say, it only takes a smile to help someone feel better. Blessings Jimeka 🤗

[pamgarner in reply to jimeka]

thank you,we know how hard it is to live with ms..I always hold on to the fact tomorrow will be different,if not the next day,one foot in front of the other.hope and joy hope and joy

[Iona60]

My heart aches for you it is so difficult to lose a friend under any circumstances.

[pamgarner in reply to Iona60]

the lesson for all of us make everyday count thank you

[greaterexp]

I'm sorry for what you must be feeling and for her family.

[pamgarner in reply to greaterexp]

thanks, it just hard on the people left behind,i am sure her family is suffering

[Jesmcd2 CommunityAmbassador]

Aww sweet one!🤗🤗 I am so sorry for your loss. Your so right, sometimes it can take a smile or a hug. Just remember, this wasn't your fault luv. 🤗💕 pamgarner

J🦈

[pamgarner in reply to Jesmcd2]

Makes you wonder what if I called her that day,would she have thought more about it,life is full of what if's

[Jesmcd2 CommunityAmbassador in reply to pamgarner]

Please don't with the what ifs pamgarner there are never what ifs. The path she chose was her own to take sweet one. And no amount of what ifs would have changed that!🤗💕

J🦈

[falalalala]

I'm sorry about your friend.

[Adslas2112]

I believe in right to die. Sooner or later I will have to face the cost benefit analysis. Her life is her life

[pamgarner in reply to Adslas2112]

I also believe in the right to die also,but I would hate to think that decision would be made because of sadness only

[Adslas2112 in reply to pamgarner]

I hate to see anyone suffer needlessly whether broken bones or souls, sadness as depression is as valid as cancer. I think your friend made her decision and that is good enough for me, I am not god and she doesn’t need my approval or disapproval to do what she wanted and chose. Love her for what she was not what she did for personal reasons.

[IFwczs]

Pam, I am very sorry to hear that. Exactly 25 years ago, my friend was found dead hanging from the ceiling of a very prestigious college. The insurance company ruled this a suicide when everyone who knew her was positive it was a murder. We have not parted on the best terms. For weeks, I was too depressed to leave my room and could only talk about her. I actually divorced my ex husband because he knew her but didn't want to talk about that because he didn't care.

[pamgarner in reply to IFwczs]

thank you it is always hard to lose someone you care about,but tragedy makes it doubly hard.the sadness

[mrsmike9]

Just remember this was her choice and you had nothing to do with it. Even if you had been in touch, these people are usually in their personal dark place and very likely you would not have known. I speak from experience. My brother and uncle both killed themselves and my sister has tried several times. It's a roller coaster.

Grieve your friend and remember the good times you had with her. Don't blame yourself from growing away.

[Raingrrl]

Sorry for your loss Pam. I hope your memories of the positive times you had together will bring you some comfort. Please don’t get on the “what if” train. It just goes in circles.

I had a young work friend commit suicide on a Sunday. I had spent time with her the previous Friday and she seemed her normal self. She talked on the phone with a couple of people the day she died and seemed normal to them too. Sometimes these situations have no answers.

[rjoneslaw]

sorry 4 ur loss

[pamgarner in reply to rjoneslaw]

thank you,miss her