They had to have one more go at me.

[jillydabrat]

Hi my MPN family

You have all supported me during the difficult times where my mum was first diagnosed with Covid 19 and her passing almost a month ago.

You have also all been supportive of how I have been treated by my vile family.

Well, last September I sat with mum and had the difficult discussion about what she would want for end of life care. I also asked mum if she would object if I prepaid her funeral because when the time came I would be a complete mess and would find it exceptionally difficult because she wasn’t just my mum, she was my best friend. She gave me her wholehearted approval and I can tell you I was so happy that I did do it in advance because not being able to be with mum at the end tortured me and it will do for the rest of my days.

I don’t know why I thought things would be different with my siblings but I was hopeful.

Within 2 days I was plagued with “I want this”, “I want that”. I was so disgusted.

Mum has chose a celebrant and one prayer for the service and the four siblings were asked by the celebrant to give him memories of mum for the service. 3 of the siblings did it but the one sister refused to contribute anything to the service.

At the funeral, the funeral director guided my husband and I

[Mwalimu]

I am so sorry you feel like this. The only thing I want to say is that you know you did your best for your mum. Others in the family may not be able to say the same so don't be surprised that in their unhappiness, they are unkind .It could be a measure of their sadness that they know they cannot change anything now.

Be glad you had your mum for so long. No one can ever take that away from you so be happy. God bless, Sallie

[Stevesmum42]

Hello Jilly.

I was so very sorry to hear that you have lost you Mum and best friend, what a wonderful relationship you had , so very special, you have been the very best daughter. What a lucky lady she was to have had the love, care, friendship and support you gave her, most of all you did it because of the deep love you had.

Please don’t let your family pull you down at this time whilst you are still grieving, keep all that you had with your precious Mum in your heart....

You do not need the extra sadness of the bullying of your sisters.

With much love and hugs Sandy xxx

[clubdino]

Hi Jill. I'm sorry you lost mom and best friend. It's so sad that your family couldn't be supportive during this time. Unfortunately I have heard stories like yours many times. People can be so selfish. It was a good idea to prepay for the funeral. Please Jill try not to focus on your family members who are making things difficult and focus on taking care of yourself and remembering the beautiful memories you and your mom had together. I know that's a difficult thing to do right now but don't let them rent space in your head...they don't deserve it. I'm sending you hugs. ❤

[Snagglepus]

Sending you hugs. Your mum will be with you always watching over you. Remember your wonderful times with your mum. Take care. Xx