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I talked to you all about the symptoms that I have with my premenopause. I went to my appointment. I had to take extra anxiety meds. I was scared. I knew that I had to possibly get a pelvic and pap. I was sexually assaulted several times. So, anybody going down there with their hands scares me. But, since I had my meds and my husband there, it made things much easier.

So, I had the exam and I freaked out on the inside, almost wanting to cry. It was very painful due to inflammation down there. I was torn emotionally. All of this because I have premenopause symptoms? My body changing and that pain was nothing compared to this. Once it was over, I felt overwhelmed, in pain, and sad. I cried when I got home. I was proud of myself for even going to get checked out to make sure that this is a premenopause thing. My husband was amazing. I am so grateful for him. He is so patient through these years and process or premenopause. It is not always easy for him.

Have any of you had this experience and had a hard time with your reproductive exam?

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wobblybeeAdministrator

Despite having had children, I’m not keen on internal examinations…I suspect many women feel the same. I recently had to have one because of bladder frequency..and my opinion hasn’t changed.

🙂 But..you did the right thing seeing your GP, I hope it’s put your mind at rest.

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Cecethat in reply to wobblybee

Yes. I am also having bladder issues. I get uti's way too often.

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wobblybeeAdministrator in reply to Cecethat

I was referred to a Specialist, and told…constipation can cause problems due to pressure on the bladder..this has been a problem for me, as well as frequency, and I’ve also had UTIs…but not often.

🙂 Make an appointment with your GP…you need to find out exactly what’s causing the pain and discomfort.

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Cecethat in reply to wobblybee

Oh neat. I have constipation issues also. it makes my back hurt.

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Peanut31

Hi Cecethat

If your experiencing bladder issues and peri menopausal (like me) you may need either vagifem or ovestin to help with this.

I had scans, put on antibiotics, thrush and cystitis medicine and nothing helped, or was very brief in relief.

Look up vaginal atrophy and this may help.

Best wishes & take care.

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Cecethat in reply to Peanut31

I definitely will. Appreciate that!

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Cecethat in reply to Peanut31

I went in and got a full exam and pap to test for so many things like cysts. Waiting for the results.

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Peanut31 in reply to Cecethat

Hi

just be mindful that GP’s aren’t fully up to date on menopausal matters, hence why so many of us have suffered necessary as told to take anti depressants or it’s just “an age thing”.

I had bladder scans, internal examination, urine samples several thrush and cysts treatments and antibiotics as mentioned before and it was a temporary fix.

It got to that point that it was effecting my early day living.

However, that was until someone kindly mentioned vaginal atrophy as I had never heard of it, and recommended a book called me and my menopausal vagina by Jane Lewis. I highly recommend you getting a copy.

Armed with more information I went back to my GP and asked if I could try vagifem and ovestin. (Vagifem works better for me)

I told them it is effecting my everyday living and as my GP they have a duty of care to listen to patients.

Unfortunately, often you had to be firm with them.

Good luck x

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Cecethat in reply to Peanut31

It was not with my general doctor. But, I get what you are saying.

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Rainbow2468

Yes i hate any examinations in my ladies department, as i was sexually abused for many years. I wasn't allowed my husband in, nor was I told i was getting a colposcopy until it was being done. I totally understand sending you a big hug x

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