Estranged sibling

[Jakeyfeller]

Has anyone else experienced what my family are going through? We've all 3 been told to go No Contact with our eldest daughter who it seems does not wish to see us and hasn't since Autumn 2022.We have guessed that it is because she is afraid of having any responsibility for us or her sister with MLD because it does not make any sense otherwise. ĺ

[Galwaybay2]

You may find the following books and charity helpful. ... 'Done with Crying (A Mothers perspective)', by Sheriff McGregor. 'Rules of Estrangement (When adult children cut ties and how to heal the conflict)', Joshua Coleman. The charity is called Stand Alone at standalone.org who have resources/podcasts. Hope that helps

[Pogul44]

Hello Jakeyfeller

I'm sorry to hear you're in such a difficult situation and being the parent makes this situation even more difficult.

Who has told you to go No Contact?

Has this come from a professional, your daughter, or somebody else?

My sister has gone No contact with me. She never explains why or says anything, she just stops communicating with me and responding to my emails. She has the control over our relationship. This caused me great anxiety over many years as I thought we had a good relationship. After seeking support from a psychotherapist I now understand the problem is not with me and I now enjoy not having the anxiety anymore. Although going No contact was never my decision I now think it is for the best for us and no longer want a relationship with her either because I now realise how toxic it actually was.

I can only speak of my own experience and what is going on in your situation may be completely different.

I do understand though the stress and anxiety you may be feeling because having no explanation as to why this has come about leaves you in limbo and a state of turmoil that you have no ability to resolve without an explanation.

I don't want to say any more on this for now because the reason your daughter is doing this to you may be different to why my sister has done the same to me.

BIG virtual hugs 🫂 coming your way as I expect you need them.

[Jakeyfeller in reply to Pogul44]

Pogul44 thank you so much for your support.We can only guess the reason for our daughter going NC and hope the situation

changes some time in the future.All the best.

Jakeyfella