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Hello guys Im been treated very badly by the police and social services I’m trying to work out how I can get away from them my social worker won’t help me can anyone help me please I want to move I want to get away from them I don’t want to them to know where I am I don’t no what to do

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Get a lawyer or charity behind you

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Someone told me to get a solicitor I don’t no what there job is I Rung lots of solicitors and they said they can’t help me and I have a learning disability so it’s hard for me to know what to do I’ve tried everything I tried talking to mencap I tried talking to citizens advice I tried talking to solicitor no one can help me citizens advice said well can you send a complaint to this person and I said I find it hard to write things what to say and they said well you told me so why can’t you just write it it’s not very good I tried talking to refuge people citizens advice said can you go to a letting shop I think there’s where you can private rent they make it sound like it’s so easy

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Dandyman01 in reply to Ilovecows

What is the problem then? email me dan_dyman@yahoo.co.uk

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Ilovecows in reply to Dandyman01

Sorry I don’t understand

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Dandyman01 in reply to Ilovecows

I am going through the same ordeal as you but, to protect myself, I am NOT going to say much more than I have said before on here as it is a very confidential matter The COP is a dangerous body.

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Ilovecows in reply to Dandyman01

What is the COP I’m sorry that you are having problems to

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49Twister in reply to Ilovecows

Court of protection

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Dandyman01 in reply to Ilovecows

49twitter's got it right.. Court of Protection.. that's where you take matters like this. you can even represent yourself {as I am doing coz Sols are useless}

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Ilovecows in reply to Dandyman01

What does represent yourself mean and what does sols mean I have a learning disability so It can be hard to understand sometimes thank you

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Dandyman01 in reply to Ilovecows

You are your own solicitor {sols} coz no one cares. I am sorry about your disabilities and the fact you can't find the right help. I dunno but, if you have money to spend, contact Irwin Mitchell Sols and if you don't.. you got to find Legal Aid Sols.. It can be difficult {as they collude} and that is I do it myself

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49Twister

This is so upsetting do you not have anyone who will support you, any family or a friend even, you can’t deal with this on your own.

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Ilovecows in reply to 49Twister

I don’t have L I don’t have anyone to help me I don’t have any family or friends I’ve tried asking everybody mencap citizens advice they all won’t help me they keep telling me to talk to social services but they’re the ones being bad so I can’t talk to them I’m stuck here and people can do whatever they want to me now

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Rupertthebear in reply to Ilovecows

You can get an advocate to help you . Since you have a disability . My son was in exactly the same position and no body was listening he was under 18 at the time . We were advised he have an advocate and that changed everything .

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Rupertthebear in reply to Rupertthebear

If that doesn’t work get an independent social worker . Stay strong and have faith .

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Ilovecows in reply to Rupertthebear

Thank you do you know how I can get an independent social worker I don’t know what to go on to find one

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Tracidu

I'm so sorry you feel that the police and social workers are treating you badly , If you could get in touch with the charity MIND for Mental health problems? or MENCAP if you are Learning Disabled? , they maybe able to direct you to get some help .??.moving might not be the answer ? , I hope you can get some practical help and you can get somewere safe and secure for your future ... Good luck

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Suethemum

Have you tried citizens advice bureau? Good luck

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Ilovecows in reply to Suethemum

Yes I have thanks I’ve tried everything now and I tried to complain about the police and no one takes me seriously the police are getting away with bullying people they have strangled me before pulled my pants down say is there any reason your walking slow shout at me push my head on the floor say what you trying to gain I don’t understand why there saying that

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Ilovecows in reply to Ilovecows

They say let’s get rid of me that I pretend my disability

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XGCC

Ask adult social care to refer you to advocacy scheme then you can have someone independent to talk to and who can write letters for you e.g. Pohwer. Some solicitors give free legal advice and some don't. It depends if they have a contract for that. You probably need a 'community care' solicitor if you have problems with the council about social care. Solicitors specialise in different areas of the law. Each organisation should have a complaints procedure and someone should be able to help you. You can make a complaint verbally although it is better to have a written note of the points you are making.

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Lizzie70 in reply to XGCC

Have you tried the learning disability help line? They were really helpful when I called them for my son.Another thing is you could always speak to your gp they have a duty to protect you.

I am so sorry for you, I hope you get some help, take care.

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Lizzie70

Have you tried the learning disability helpline? They were really helpful when I called them for my son.Also you should call your gp and make an appointment to speak to them about what's been going on, they have a, duty to protect you.

I'm so sorry for you, hope this helps.

Take care.

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White25

Hi sorry to hear about your situation, what borough do you live in. What type of accommodation are you in? I will see if I can find out some information for you. Let me know where you live.

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White25

Hello again. you should get in touch with ousted, I am sure they will listen to you, you can ring them or get someone maybe in the library to send them an email for you. Cascaidr charity you could get in touch with them. Good luck.

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White25

Hello get in touch with ousted, sorry I spelt it wrong before, I am sure they will help you. Cascaidr charity may also be able to help. Good luck.

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White25

Hello. Get in touch with Ofsted, you can email them, check it out on their website. I am sure they will help you. What area do you live in. Try Cascaidr charity, who may be able to help, I think you have to email them.

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HolisticMum

I do hope you can actually get someone to physically help you. It's not good enough us all saying have you tried this and that. You need phone numbers and contacts. It really annoys me that all this about charities helping people. When it comes down to anyone asking, there's no chance.If you are good with the computer can you find any helplines there? I do hope you get help soon. I feel so sorry for you.

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Ilovecows in reply to HolisticMum

Thank you no I’m not that very good at finding things I find it hard yeah yeah i appreciate people help Everyone everyone I can I asked my social worker lots of times If they can help me leave but they keep ignoring me and saying that we need to have a meeting then we have a meeting and they don’t do anything I rang them today and I’m Crying shout Then they say we need to have a meeting with everyone I don’t want to have a meeting with people that don’t listen to me and care about me I want to leave they’re trying to make me stay they don’t care that I’m being abused

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Ilovecows in reply to Ilovecows

People keep going to safeguarding about me lots of times

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Ilovecows in reply to HolisticMum

I’m using the microphone to write This message it’s easier you talk and then it writes it

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Ilovecows in reply to HolisticMum

I’ve been ringing everyone everyone says I need to talk to my social worker

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Ilovecows in reply to HolisticMum

So that means that I am going to be stuck forever

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Ilovecows in reply to HolisticMum

I tell lots of People the social workers aren’t doing anything about it and after I’ve told them everything they tell me you need to talk to you social worker it’s not very nice I’m telling them personal things And they tell me to talk to to talk to my social worker when I told them there not doing anything people People think it’s okay for the whole world to know everything about me I’m very upset about this

I talked to citizens Advice mencap abuse helpline Runaway everything

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Ilovecows

Thanks for you help guys Please can someone help me to find a private social worker because I don’t know what to go on thank you

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HolisticMum

Yes social workers have never been helpful to us either, so I understand what you are saying. You are explaining yourself so well about the meetings and everything. It is awful they are not taking any notice. Always ask for the Manager or Person in charge too and make sure who you are speaking too. Would it be hard for you to send an email to the Director of your social services and complain about the service? I haven't got any disabilities and through the years, trying to help my sons, has been very difficult indeed. So I really understand that you are not being listened too. They are not treating you fairly or with respect from the sounds of it.

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Ilovecows in reply to HolisticMum

I’m sorry to hear that your social worker didn’t help you yes it is hard I don’t really know what to say I don’t know how to find out there email A lot of people be stupid and do that thing where they just say they’re not doing anything wrong it’s because this person has got a disability they don’t know what’s happening they they just thinking that people are doing things wrong

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HolisticMum in reply to Ilovecows

Keep trying and keep talking to as many friends or people you trust. I really hope you get the help you deserve soon. Best of luck.

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Ilovecows in reply to HolisticMum

I’m sorry it’s so sad things are a mess in the UK at the moment The nhs social services I think people told me it’s because of money

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Ilovecows in reply to HolisticMum

I’ve been charged with things I haven’t done before and someone told me to complain I tried to complain and they don’t help me it’s so stupid lots of people police are getting away with been bad all the time

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FELTSPAR

Do you still need an independent social worker? If yes, send a message to either

enquiries@sunshine-support.org.uk

OR

Try

Tel:0330 1138 633

office@iswp.org.uk

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Ilovecows in reply to FELTSPAR

Thank you I think I do my social worker is not been good but I was told that independent social worker will need to talk to my social worker who I have at the moment and I was hoping I would be able to get independent social worker without them having to talk to my social worker I have now thanks

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FELTSPAR in reply to Ilovecows

I would check that out, does not sound correct to me.

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Ilovecows in reply to FELTSPAR

So I have have a learning disability and sometimes I don’t understand what people mean when you say check that out what do you mean please and and why does it sound wrong please can you tell me what you know about this it’s important for people to know about these things so we know is someone is not been helpful to us thank you 🙂

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Ilovecows in reply to Ilovecows

So we can be be in the know about things to🙂

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FELTSPAR

I mean ask the independent social worker about your concerns. One of your concerns was does she as the independent social worker have to speak to the council social worker. Just ask the independent social worker about ALL the concerns you have. You will be paying her, part of her job is to answer your questions.

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Ilovecows in reply to FELTSPAR

Ok thank you very much

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FELTSPAR in reply to Ilovecows

Make sure that the independent social worker specialises in learning disability.Try the Sunshine support Group first, they are very good.

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