Does anyone know who you can get help from if you’re not being helped properly and you’ve got an advocate and they’re not helping you properly and people are telling you that you need to tell them everything you find hard and your support workers are not writing down what they help you with properly and you struggle you struggle to tell people what you find hard and you don’t know everything you find hard and people are saying you pretend your problems and saying that you don’t need help when you do and you’re being abused by people what do you do And you get two hours of support a day and you Have to stay in your house every day because nobody is helping you to learn what to do what clothes you need and no one is letting you have a ot when you need one
Support workers before have not come to my house when there meant to and sweared at me and my social worker didn’t do anything I tried to tell my social worker that I don’t feel safe where I live and I want to leave and they ignore me they say they can’t help me and they got a parcel coming so they got to go
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Hi there. Can you tell me if you have family that can help ? Is your advocate chosen by you ? Can you change that person ? If you feel the social worker is not helping you then you can make a complaint to the local authority or perhaps look up your local councillor and ask for their help snd support ? Are there any local charities near you ? I’m in north west London and there are a few listed on the local authority website ?have you spoken to mencap? Have you tried any of these approaches ?
Hi thank you No I don’t have family that can help me they not been nice to me no I didn’t get to choose my advocate I’m not sure how to find charities someone told me to talk to citizens advice and I did but they say it’s good I got a advocate i don’t no what to do now I will try talking to mencap the problem is when I try telling someone new they say they want to talk to my social worker and when they do the social worker and other people will tell them wrong things then they believe them so they don’t help me anymore so I’m really stuck
My mum told people I can do everything when I can’t because she wants me to be independent she doesn’t care that I been in danger that I can’t do everything by myself I got forced to move into my own place no one let me say if I wanted to do that I didn’t understand how to use the heating no one cared when my support worker was been mean to me and swearing at me and getting me to buy her things my mum said stop complaining nothing is ever good enough I didn’t no if it was ok to buy her it I did buy her it and I asked my sister if it was ok
People have made up things lots to try and get me in trouble with the police people say I pretend my benefits have gone down and I didn’t have proper food for 3 weeks and no one cared and now I’m on my own for Christmas because my family isn’t been very nice I can’t tell you everything that’s been happening there to much but people have done the worst they can do to me and they no I don’t no what to do I don’t no how to prove to someone that people are been bad people lie a lot
The following is an extract from this weblink on what to do if you are being abused or neglected:
I think I am being abused or neglected. What can I do?
There are many people you can talk to. If you feel you are being abused or neglected:
do not worry about making a fuss – tell someone you trust as soon as possible
speak to friends or care workers who may have an understanding of the situation and be able to take steps quickly to improve the situation
talk to professionals such as a GP or social worker about your concerns, or ask to speak to your local council's adult safeguarding team or co-ordinator
call the Hourglass helpline on 0808 808 8141 for advice
if you believe a crime is being, or has been, committed – whether it's physical abuse or financial – talk to the police or ask someone you trust to do so on your behalf
I hope this helps.
The following is a weblink from CQC on: how to complain about adult social care:
I am so sorry to hear that the people involved with your care are not hearing you and that you feel you are not getting appropriate support. It is a very lonely and isolating feeling not being heard. Are you in supported living accommodation? Have you any friends or people living near you who you know and trust who could give you help or advice on how to improve your circumstances? Do you have a diagnosis that would give you access to support groups? Are you a member of a church group that could invite you to activities, especially over Christmastime? I do hope you get the support you need.
Dear ilovecows, I’m so sorry about your situation. As Michele1965 says one place you could try is your local Church of England vicar, some churches are very good at supporting people. You could also reach out to your local Salvation Army who are very good at supporting vulnerable people in many ways. If you could say what town you are in people on here might be able to tell you about local charities that might be able to help you and help you contact them.
Write down dates and what happened and take this evidence with you to social worker and manager of care home or supported living place and advocate
Thanks very much but there’s to many things peole are doing I cant write down dates this has been going on a long time to and I find it hard to write lots and my social worker is part of the people that are treating me bad and my advocate isn’t helping me properly so I don’t no what to do
And I tried to ask my social worker if they can get someone to help me move things in my house and they said no I got to go now I got a parcel coming there is broken glass in here and I want to leave I’m going to leave here but they making me stay here by not letting me get help I live in my own house I was forced to move to my own place I been diagnosed with a learning disability
I tried to tell the police there not been good I told lots of people there not doing anything I’m not going to stay and be abused anymore I can’t take it anymore there so mean I didn’t even no it was abuse but I no now
My last social worker talked to safeguarding about me but when my support worker was been bad to me she didn’t do anything and said are you saying your support worker is lieing and then the mean support worker told my social worker that I punched them and I didn’t and then I got my support stopped and I tried to tell them I’m not ok and they didn’t talk to me for 4 months
Ambulances had to come a lot and once these nice ambulance people said we have to take you out of here I think your getting mad because people not helping you you can’t stay here but no one did anything
And people have been making up things about me so lots of people are mean to me and it’s even been were the mean people make up that I’m doing things to get me arrested when I haven’t done anything
Not many people know that being a social worker is much more difficult than it seems at first glance. If some social workers refuse to come to you, you should complain about the company they work for. Of course, they may have difficulty communicating with a certain category of people, but they have no right to ignore your call. I recently wanted to become a social worker myself when I read this article becomeopedia.com/social-wor.... You know, if I had the opportunity, I'd help you even without a salary! Your story made me think that there are many people like you, and each of you needs support. I advise you to change your lawyer because this person should protect your interests no matter what because you hired him.
I would complain but I need help to do that and I don’t have help I don’t no how to find out what company they work for i don’t really no what a company means they work at the council
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