Just saying hello

[Grace2232]

Hi. I am new here (like everyone else I guess). I'm mum to an adult with a learning disability. She's very keen on being independent and we are still working on this - leaving college, finding work, wanting to leave home, having a boyfriend. I know that all young adults face these but everything seems so much harder for her. And for me. I spend most of my time organising her life rather than my own. It would be great to hear from other people in a similar situation - and to find out how they approached different issues. Thanks

[Sarah_Mencap]

Welcome to this community, and thank you for saying and hello and sharing a bit about what is going on in your life. You sound very busy, no wonder you struggle for time just for you. Please feel free to post about how you are feeling, or any specific question you have. The community is growing and there will be people in a similar situation who will appreciate what you are facing. Keep in touch.

Cheers

Sarah

[sign-bro]

Hi Grace2232 I'm a brother to an older sister with a learning disability, who is also keen on being more independant and having boyfriends which are a very difficult situation between a multitude of aspects for many parties. Since my mother is very ill I am slowly picking up more but it is a mindfield out there and support/rights/etc. is something I'm also very interested in understanding how others manage the situation.

[Dandyman01]

Hi Grace, it is hard work as many many serious issues are at hand. Be supportive and do all you can. I lost my son to the scandalous cruel system but, he can't progress coz of his LD and Autism and lack of our support. It's disgrace how they treat him and us in a so called Democratic Society. Dan x

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Hi there. Read your post and nearly didnt reply because I have no answers. But if it helps to know that other parents are going though the same thing then here it is. My daughter is at the same stage. She has mild learning difficulties and is incredibly trusting, which of course makes her vulnerable. She desperately wants friends and a sense of belonging and that is putting her in situations where she's making bad choices. I'm terrified that she will self-destruct, and I know so many parents with teenagers with no difficulties feel exactly the same. We are trying to support her with small amounts of independence like paying her rent while she's at college but this obviously brings it's own challenges. Scary times!

[M55ia]

Hi i have just joined and am in the exact position as this. My daughter has struggled with learning during most of her school life. Tests have been done by schools and the college but her needs have not been identified fully. With a lot of assistance she has just completed a course but as she is 18 now she is seen as an adult so i am struggling to find support for her to progress. It would be good to hear any reccomendations for support groups for young adults with learning needs please

[Aholidaywouldbenice in reply to M55ia]

hello. does your daughter have a EHCP? As i understand it she should get extra support until she is 25. Is she interested in working or volunteering?

[Kazbail]

Hi Grace I'm new on here and never know who to talk to or ask as you start to feel alone. My daughter is 16 she has an ECHP she has learning disabilities autism social interaction etc. I find myself organising everything for my daughter and spend all of my time with her which she gets very resentful with me so now think she needs to be mixing and getting involved socially which I'm hoping will happen when she starts college. Thankyou 😁