4 weeks without you.xmas eve

[justshight84]

So it's Christmas eve..trying to get through it with a smile on my face for my children but how can i when my best friend has only been gone 4 weeks...am 33 years old and have never had a Christmas dinner without her at the table...going to be so so hard....can hear my mum now "come on do it for the kids"...am trying...merry bloody Christmas.😔

[pollyalison]

It’s tough I know. My dad passed in January and every Christmas is a reminder. You just have to do what you know your mum would say. Take yourself off for a five minute respite cry if you need to and keep smiling through. Good luck and I hope it goes as well as possible xx

[Jmc8]

Feel your pain - hollow inside despite having lovely 4 year old twins - lost my mum & dad this year just 3 months apart & I’m an only child. I’ve just left the room for a little cry but will be putting brave face on again later. Good luck x

[Pamann247 in reply to Jmc8]

Jmc

So very sorry for your loss. How difficult your situation must be.

My husband and I had nearly a year after we found out, but I don't think we can ever feel prepared or ready for the empty hole their absence of presence leaves.

Thinking and praying for us all. 🙏

Love

Pam R

[Lennykit]

Aw you'll be strong for the children that's what all us mums do thinking about and sending you good thoughts Lennykit xx

[Pamann247]

Yes sir, this holiday season is going to be a tough one. My husband passed just seven weeks ago. It's hard to believe that last Christmas we didn't even know he had cancer. What a difference a year makes.

I have children also and for that reason alone I carry on and don't become a hermit. I look at them and I realize life is fragile. Sometimes my grief and tears are upon me and there's nothing I can do. The hugs help. The prayers help. The kindness of work friends helps. Even my job is a welcome distraction.

I am no where near over my grief but I push on each day and celebrate the joys and tears and trials we shared and overcame. The memories as my presents this Christmas. I unwrap them daily and rejoice at the times we were given.

Prayers for you and your family, sir.

Much love

Pamela R

[justshight84 in reply to Pamann247]

Thinking of you also.yes we only found out in July she had cancer.she had finished a 6 week course of radio with the view that it would get rid of it..she finished that on Friday and my sister found her at home on the wednesday.(She lived with her).made my sister stay with me and the children last night so we Were all together this morning..just about to sit for Xmas dinner...am dreading itx

[Pamann247]

It's moment by moment, day by day. I trudge on. I reflect on the love we shared and distract myself from the constant pain of his absence.

May God comfort us all

Pamela R

[miasam]

Hope your Christmas went ok and you managed it it's very hard pinning a smile on your face pretending your coping when really all you want is your day to go .but be proud you got threw it .I know how hard it was for you my husband who I had Been with 42 years past 7 weeks before Christmas. And Christmas day was hard for me there will be many mile stones we will have to get threw .and hopefully with time and good memories we will do it take care x

[RoyCastleHelpline Partner Ask the Nurse Roy Castle]

So sorry for your loss and especially at Christmas time. Hope you managed through it with your family and as you can see from fellow posts that you are not alone in your grief.

If you wish to discuss anything you can call us on our freephone nurse led number on 0800 358 7200

Curse bereavement helpline number is 0808 808 1677 or cruse.org.uk

Kind regards

The Roy Castle Support Team