Advice

[Paulo1976]

Morning everyone, hope we are all keeping well. I have previously posted on here about mum, who has severe COPD and SCLC. She has undergone horrendous chemo and finished palliative radiotherapy. Her side effects of radiotherapy have dispersed and she is now feeling a little better. Unfortunately, I have caught her smoking again and vaping. I don't know how long this has been going on for. It's truly devastating.

I know I am not the person who is fighting this horrible disease, caused by the very thing she is doing again. I have never been a smoker, so don't know how it feels. I know it's not about me but being the loved one who has stood by her side throughout this, taking her to appointments, helping at home, you name it. Probably done what any other person would do for their parent.

I suppose I would like to know how to deal with this. Anyone done this ? What further damage will it cause? What can I do?

Its hard to describe really, it's not a pity party and not about me..Can't help how I feel and feels like a knife through the heart.

Any advice, experience of this appreciated.

Thank you for reading.

Paul

[Denzie Moderator Volunteer]

Paulo, I'm so sorry your family has to go through this. The tobacco addiction is that great. They spent 10s of millions of dollars researching ways to make it more addictive.

This is her choice. It's very likely she's beating herself up already and feeling a mixture of guilt and nihilism because of it. Just let her know you love her. I wish I could help more.

[Paulo1976 in reply to Denzie]

Thank you x

[Barbara36]

So sorry Paul for all parts of the situation you are facing. You are doing a lot. Give yourself credit. The smoking, or vaping will as you suspect not be good. As a former smoker, I can tell you it's an all consuming addiction. I use nicotine lozenges. And now have found myself addicted to them. You're doing your best and that is good enough. Bless you.

[Paulo1976 in reply to Barbara36]

Thank you x