Day 31 in the ICU. I’m having a hard time trying to cope...

[Garbagestar34]

Again we spoke to the doctors and they are not rooting for my dad to make it. He is at 55% on the vent with peep of 10. We discussed if the next step would be the trach. But she also said that that may bring more problems to my Dad and it doesn’t guarantee that he will make it. She talked about considering my dads quality of life by doing al these procedures. But what am I and my family to say, we want my dad to live! He is only 56... I just want him to live.

My mental health is suffering. I can see my dads condition is changing through the FaceTimes. How can we cope? Going through this without being able to see him is not normal. I just want to see and get some hope from the medical professionals that are actually with him. 💔

[Rgsable]

Hi Garbagestar34

I am sorry to hear this. Keep insisting that they give more time for your dad to pull through. They did the same to us. It was all negative but we insisted that he will pull through. Keep the hope and keep fighting for your dad. It is hard to remain strong I know. I had to be put on anti depression and anxiety to cope. Speek to your doctors. I also joined in various survivors group on fbk and group of prayers x

[holibob]

I'm so sorry for you all. I totally agree with Rgsable, keep fighting for him and don't give up hope. Things can seem totally hopeless one day and then you get a glimmer of hope.

My husband was in an induced coma for 2 months and in ICU for 3 months. I was told on several occassions that he wouldn't survive - but he did.

I feel so sorry that you can't see your dad, and no it's not normal at all.

I was able to visit my husband because it was some time ago now, but the only confort I can offer is that there were things I wish i'd never seen and took a long time to erase.

I hope you're dad starts to improve and i send my very best wishes to you all.

[Sepsur]

It is awful - critical care with the added dimension of you not being able to visit. It is so important for you all to look after yourselves too. Your Dad will need all your support & energy later. I know the medics can sound very pessimistic on occasion, they are trying to be realistic, but, as we know from this forum, there are so many of us that outlive their expectations. Whilst you may not feel it at present, your father will be getting the best treatment by the best people. As you say - he is a young man with family.