Hi, I'm new to this group but I'm looking for some support. Three weeks ago my boyfriend was admitted to ICU, he had an accident on his bike which resulted in him breaking his neck. He can currently only feel from his shoulders down, the doctors are confident that he will be able to make a full recovery but this could take several years. He is on a ventilator at the moment and has been sedated for most the time we've been here but they have woken him up to try to ween him off the ventilator. He was only meant to be in ICU for a week at most but he has had severe sepsis which has led to kidney failure and this has delayed the second surgery on his neck. This whole experience has been incredibly difficult for me and I feel incredibly selfish for saying that because it has obviously been a whole lot worse from him. It has been hard seeing the most active and talkative person I have ever met being unable to move or speak. It's horrible to see him in pain and feel like I can't do anything about it. I feel guilty when I'm not in the hospital or even if I am happy about something. I feel like I have no one to talk to about all of this because no one knows what to say, I was hoping people in this community who have been through similar things might have some advice for getting through this. Thank you,
Julia.