Wanted to write to get a bit of solace and stories from someone who experience similar situations.
My dad had throat cancer surgery 14 days ago. He is ventilated as he got pneumonia and was very agitated when they tried to remove the sedative, so he couldn't breathe. They did a tracheotomy just today. He also has fever and possible pancreatitis (the doctors are not sure and the don't understand why). He doesn't respond to external stimulation and orders, he just moves a bit (head, arms), I am not even sure if he understands when me or my mom are there. He also has problems with clogged arteries and cuts in his arteries (?) due to his cholesterol levels and problems with the kidneys.
They did a CT that didn't show anything. They will do a eeg this Saturday. He is 69 and I am so scared he won't make it.
I try to go visit him and talk to him a few hours per day (me or my mom), I feel guilty if I don't go more but I don't think can stay there the full day.
Sorry if I made any mistake or didn't explain properly, English is not my first language and medical terms are difficult.