uneducated in this area

[meneghepos]

we found out three maybe four months ago he got on meds right away and I was negative now from what he tells me his levels ae down below 40 qnd sex can continue as it always was(bare ) is this true never ejacualtes in me but never the less still bare but 4 days ago he decided to stop taking the meds he flushed them in a bit of a rage can he get these meds again and how much panic should I be in as we did havesex after he had missed 2 days I he says he is starting to feel things bad happening someone please help im confused scared and lost need more info...im not sure of this is the right forum for thisi f not can someone point me in the right direction..Thanking you in advance

[Griffon]

Ok , let's hope I have understood you correctly .

Studies have shown that once an HIV infected persons viral count becomes undetectable they can not infect their partner . My guess is that the further you stray from this , ie. the higher the viral count the higher the risk .

Success with HIV treatment does rely on adherence to the medication regime . Throwing the meds away was a childish act of stupidity and puts you both at risk . In all probability you can get away with a two day break in medication , but your partner needs to get back on to the treatment as soon as possible . For your own safety I would not have unprotected sex until his viral count is undetectable .

[Griffon in reply to Griffon]

You really need to think carefully about your relationship with this man if he has so little regard for your safety . Possibly you should leave whilst you are still clear , as it seems he can not be trusted .

[Chrissuffolk]

I’d go further... Undetectable means that you are not infectious and are incapable of transmitting the virus.

If you don’t (or he doesn’t) then yes you can catch it but I’d have to say 2 days shouldn’t be a huge concern.

Meds are easy to get hold of and your clinic should easily be able to provide emergency meds. They will he used to it.

I agree with Griffon that if you aren’t on PreP then if you have unprotected sex with him you are now putting yourself at risk at a very exponential rate. 24-48 hours is one thing, very small risk if any. 3-7 days slightly more risk 1 week plus is substantial risk and more than that is lunacy. That said, everyone’s immune system is different so there’s no knowing how his or yours will react.

Keep safe but understand that most of us who are HIV will have ups and downs. If you can’t trust your partner protect yourself with contraception or medication. Your health is your responsibility. You won’t be able to blame him if you were aware, well you can try to but you’ll know you put yourself at risk, trust me when I say your brain is very good at reminding you of your own bad decisions if you don’t keep a handle on it.