As all of you see your injury/accident as a mishap, or problem.
Well you've been given a CHALLENGE to over come, ending your life is the, SUPER EASY WAY OUT!!!
&I know it'll lead to 24/7 of PAIN, for doing SO!!!
I give you the, CHOICE TO FIND OUT???
OR KEEP PUSHING/FIGHTING, through your injury???
it's what I did, before my accident, I TRIED GOING THE EASY WAY, BUT LIFE PAYED ME BACK, WITH A HEAD INJURY!!!
Hello, and forgive me for saying that you seem very troubled, and as such, this site is a fantastic place to get help, support and encouragement. Yes you're absolutely bang on the money with the easy way out business, but by taking that option you become absolutley nothing. Now, by accepting the 'challenge of life' you are able to acheive some remarkable objectives. And by the way, doesn't the challenge of life begin the day that you are born? Everybody's life is a challenge and everybody's challenge is different. The head injury is just an additional obstacle. OK in all fairness, its an immense, seemingly immovable obstacle, but it isn't impossible to come to terms with it. A head injury is, without a shadow of doubt, a life changing condition, but the harder you must try, the better you will get. I think the best advice that I can offer is try to see things in a different light. Dont push or fight the injury but somehow try to come to terms with it. ACCEPTANCE makes up about 90% of recovery in my opinion.
Ok, thats my lecture over but don't forget to post for help and stay strong. Whatever you do, don,t give in. Ryan
i don't see it as a Challenge
i see it as, well Ryan put it well, Acceptance
not all our issues can be beaten, so we have to adapt ourselves and our enviroment to live with them.
so fighting something which will not change is just going to create further problems.
EACH TOO THERE OWN, I'm AN IDIOT WHO DOESN'T LIKE TOO GIVE IN!!!
EVEN IF I DIE AGAIN!!!
I take problems&deal with them1by1, as they come too ME!!!
We've LOST THE ABILITY, TO MAKE NEW BRAIN CELLS/create new brain cells!!!
That's why we have trouble remembering new skills!!!
Life is a CHALLENGE!!!
But a head injury, makes that challenge more intresting to ME.
no your not an idiot, sounds like you have the right idea
i know this is a personal question and tell me if i am overstepping the mark
from the way i understand it, you tried to commit suicide and ended up with a brain injury, is that right.
you have said its is the easy way out. i bet most of us here have seriously considered it, i know i have. did you find it an easy decision to make?
i think the main thing that stopped my was my kids and how they would cope.
does having the brain injury give you something to focus on or fight for now?
sorry if i am bringing up bad history, but i am genuinely curious
and if you dont want to answer i am fine with that as i know its very personal
Well I am an IDIOT!!!
for leaving Honda & I think I WAS GOOD AT IT???
My injury came as, A BAD MOVE ON MY PART/black ice on the road, going to my different job.
I thought about commiting suicde, after my crash, BUT I THOUGHT???
HOLD ON, THIS IS A CHALLENGE THAT I WILL TAKE ON!!!
COS I IS A IDIOT!!!
Hello again,
Well I start by attempting to redfine IDIOT. There is no way in this world that you could have seen the black ice on the road so your accident was purely circumstantial. I understand why you perceive leaving one job influenced the accident but by no means should you consider yourself an idiot. And now its time for me to come clean about my accident, which admittedly was eighteen 1/2 years ago but I think this should truly define idiot. I had been working for a freight company at Heathrow and much of our business deals were arranged in a pub. We would regulary drink WAY over the limit and still drive. I was the wrong side of a keep left sign approaching the M25 and the airline catering lorry that was coming off the roundabout made mince meat of my car and scrambled my head. Luckily, a police car was parked at the scene and the firebrigade were called to get me out and into the ambulance with minimum delay. Fortunately for me there were no other injured parties but I have still had to come to terms with life after head injury for being a true idiot, and in that time I have no idea how many hundreds or maybe thousands of times that I have just wanted to give in. But this idiot is still here. This idiot still feels that he can contribute something. Most importantly this idiot still feels that he has a place in this world. Finally, check out a piece called "Desiderata" by Max Erman (sorry I cant get a link to it but it's all over the web). It was written donkeys years ago but is very inspirational all the same.
Ryan
I'm an IDIOT!!!
Because I TRIED TO GO THE EASY WAY IN LIFE & I FOUND OUT THERE IS NO SHORT CUTS IN LIFE!!!
I'm back down here, to do a mission, then can sleep for GOOD!!!
I was a smart monkey, with a distinction in another feild, of work.
Then I became an office boy!!!
I'm still young only 5 years old, 6 years old, in December time.
Don't be so harsh on yourself. The past is the past, nothing you can do nothing to change it, like Ryan says. But you can do something about the present, and do not think your brain is not plastic. Healing takes amazing about of time and even more courage and strength to keep working to recovery. In my experience I have had lots of times when I would rather slip away because it is tooooo hard! Don't give up, you do have the strength and the brain can make new connections believe me, I would be able to write or speak again if it didn't! Good luck x
Y NOT???
IT KEEPS PUSHING ME, WHEN EVERY1LOOKS DOWN ON ME!
Every1says, I've come FAR4a5year old, again!
I share your fustrations man...
I'm NOT FUSTRATED.
That2me is a WASTE OF ENGERY!!!
I'm WAY2EASY GOING2CARE!!!
I SEE IT AS A CHALLENGE2MOI.
(French is on my mind, I don't know Y???)
I assumed you were frustrated from what you wrote. I'm someone who knows when they're frustrated and lets everyone know about it. I don't see it as a sign of weakness as some do. It's better to be frustrated than to be in denial/ignore problems. The next stage up from denial and frustration is turning that energy into something positive which is what I struggle with most, for that i'm labelled a negative being.
Best of luck if you really are onto stage 3.
YES I ADMIT I've changed!!!
The OLD ME DID DIE!!!
but ur past makes u who ur now, BUT A CHANGED VERSION!
EVERY1ELSE THINKS??? It's not that HARD, having an injury(e.g. busted arm/leg)
BUT R BRAIN IS BUSTED&TAKES WAY LONGER2HEAL!!!
IT'S NOT THAT HARD, STARTING FROM AGE0AGAIN!
BUT STILL HAVING UR OLD MEMORIES, IS A HUGH KICK IN UR ASS!!!
I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOO STUBBORN.
THAT IS WHAT IS PUSHING ME, TO DO BETTER ALL THE TIME, ACCEPTANCE TO ME IS TAKING THE EASY WAY OUT.
it's like oh well I CAN'T DO ANY BETTER, I'll just take it as I am.
&that's a POOR attitude to have, being broken!
As I got an email, as I forgot about this site???#
What have I been up too???
Well here's a link to my book, it's the 6th one down, and an unusual front cover, or just my scary mug on the front cover???
amazon.co.uk/s?k=denis+so&i...
If purchased??? You'll be helping 5 different charities, Headway are 2 of them, or 2 different locations of Headway and the other 2, 2 different charities I volunteer for, and the NHS as they did save my life, or kept-ed moi alive, I've got too return the favour to them!!!
See you soon if near Salisbury???
I really don't know??? Where the contact details, have gone for, Salisbury Headway???
Well here it is again, the main person to talk to, her name is Sarah Allen, her mobile number is: 07725 827869, if asked who gave you, her number??? Just say, trouble maker, she'll knows it's moi.
Accepting & Acknowledging Mistakes
My daughter is coming home
What to expect in the coming weeks
Supporting children who have been effected by TBI
