how do i meet people without going to headway meets so they dont have a head injury?

[nick_01]

[bikerlifestyle]

depends on what your hobbies and interests are?

i love motorcycles and i have made more friend post injury than i had pre injury as i joined online forums and groups and go to biker rallies (in my van) they don't care that i am in a wheelchair because it could as easily be one of them (mine was a motorcycle crash)

but at the end of the day its you that has to make the effort to find friends

this is a good website meetup.com it is based on area so you choose your area, then see what people are doing, everything from photography to eating out you can chat online first to get to know people and then see whats going on and join in if you want to.

[nick_01]

Thanks

[Hidden]

Here's a challenge I do: host someone from Couchsurfing. It's always fun to meet people from elsewhere around the world. See if you can give them a pleasant stay, and if not they'll be gone the next day. I always get good feedback which makes me feel good.

[nick_01]

What I don't understand?

[Hidden]

This website couchsurfing.org/ where travellers can ask people for a "couch" to sleep on over night or to be shown round the city by a knowledgeable local. It's a way to meet interesting people from a different culture and to practice your social skills at the same time.

[nick_01]

I can't am in a wheelchair and classed as a vulnerable adult need a career with me also

[davesdad]

This might not be the suggestion you were expecting but church groups are somewhere that I can be sure you will be accepted for who you are and not for the situation you have found yourself in. You might need to do some research but you will discover that not all churches are full of "old" folks like me The more evangelical ones often have groups for younger people like you and not everything happens on Sundays or is only about "God" either! You mention Lincoln Collage in your profile so you could look at newlifelincoln.org.uk/index... if that is in your area.

Hope that helps,

God Bless!

[Lubilu01]

Nick_01, what are your interests? I can tel, from your recent posts that you are really peed off and fed up, understandably. And what are you not interested in?! X

[nick_01]

i dont have any intrests really

[Liblob]

whats wrong with Headway meetings? there are some great people there with knowledge and experience of what you are going through. They will be able to give you ideas of where to go and meet different people and getting to know them may benefit you

[Hidden]

I speak for myself, but I'd prefer to surround myself with people who weren't injured because they're represent who i'd like to be more like one day. I've never met somone who's had the same injury as myself and I'm not sure I'd want to. Even if we can share common experiences, how can we expect to improve? That's hard for me to accept, it's sounds hypocritical, as though I don't like myself, which infact is true.

[Liblob]

not many of us do like the person that we are now but once you learn to accept it and have finished your grieving for the old you, then its possible to move on, I really hope you feel better about yourself soon

[Hidden]

Thanks for the well wishes, since my injury occured when I was very young, I feel in no way connected to my former self and wouldn't know what life would've been like now. I wouldn't say I accept myself now, because I still think I can get better, but I'am very much used to myself and how others view me.

[Liblob]

that sounds positive, and its nice that you are used to how others view you, me I don't think my lot will ever get used to the new me, its the new people that I meet that have to accept me for who I am now as they will never know the other me.

[Hidden]

Almost all people I meet won't have known anyone except the me now so, unsupringly they just assume that my behaviours are a reflection of my true personality, but as someone afflicted by a brain injury knows, our personalities can become extremely variable and unpredictable (especially the case for me since my frontal lobes were affected). I have my own constraints on what I can and can't do and I have to listen to myself and unfortunately I have to miss out on alot of activities because I feel out of place, it's something I'm very much used to however. Nobody you meet can see you're not right, they won't be considerate and at the same time you want to fit in and for everyone to accept you like any other. Most on observation of my behaviour would think i'm being anti-social, uncooperative, boring, unadventurous, etc. I don't care to explain to those people why I behave the way I do, that someone can be like that and it be completely out of their control just doesn't fit into their reality of the everyday people they meet.

[nick_01]

but my head injuries make me use a wheelchair and unable 2 speak so mine are visible