my son was 12 when i had my TBI. he couldnt cope with the change in me.... he was going through pubity and had no support as to cope and handle his feelings about what had happend/ He had gained a new mum. one who was less independent. less mobile. easerly fustrated. very poor memory and thick.... he punished me for being this way to a point where i had a very bad emotional break down. My son went to stay with friends rather than go into care. it was the best for both of us. He started 6form but had learnt to pley a victim in all this and use my TBI as a way of getting out of trouble. The tachers havee now issued him a warning and also my friends who have given him a home have had enough now to. He fell out with his sister over hurting her and i got upset with him on Christmas day as he again punished me for getting fustrated whilst trying to organise a christmas Dinner using only a microvave as i am not allowed to use anything else due to memory problems.saftey... any way he went to a party 30th dec .. he is 16 now.... took drink then self harmed then took pills and ended up in hospital. he is ok tho thank god... and when i chat to him he says it is me that is the reason he wants to die. ???this has cut me up so bad as i have raised my 3 children on my own. i have been on my own for 10 years and have put them first all the time.i dont have my hair done nails done ,expensive clothes. i dont have a social life. i dont smok or drink/ i have been mum and dad to them. and now i cannot forful that roll he hates me.
He blames everyone else fror his wrong doings. he lies about things and manipulates people. he make them feel sorry for him . I LOVE HIM SO MUCH but don't no what to do. he is going to be kicked out of school and homless because of his ways,,
my medical team state i am a vunrable adult and cannt have him back at home for my own health and the saftey of my other kids . witnessing his abuse towards me. THE THING IS HE CANNOT SEE HIS WRONG DOINGS is why people get upset with him.. I hurt so and dont no what to do. i am a mum and want to FIX things but carnt..... just needed a moan. thanks for your ears. xx
please there are 2 sides to every storey and my son is not here to give his so this is only a moan and advice as to how a brain injurd mum copes with this situaltion..