So, so, so..

[Dann2]

so worried about my brain, so worried about the future, so worried about developing dementia, so worried about losing myself and missing out on life.

[Wheelchairdave]

Sorry to hear all this. I'm the same I'm getting on for three months in now and worse if anything. Hang in there. Take care.

[Life-Goes-On-2021]

Big hugs, Dann2. The worry can be all consuming. Sometimes the here & now is all there is - more manageable at least. Take care.

[MaryH75]

Big hugs DannI'm 4 months in and feel like I'm chasing.my tail trying to get straight answers. My way of coping is taking 1 day at a.time. Nothing else we can do

I hope you feel better soon

You are not alone x

[1949liz]

hi Dann2 I’m sorry that you’re feeling down but when you worry, it doesn’t change the situation only makes you worry More I know because I worried so much in the past but no matter how much I worried it didn’t change the situation. It’s difficult to tell you not to worry. Is worrying going to change your situation you are worrying about. I don’t think so so maybe you can today take one thing that you are worrying about and decide to make it a positive rather than a negative. I take my little doggy for a walk. And I see so much beauty all around us and I am so grateful that I did not allow my worries to take over me that I turned them into positives. Please have a good weekend maybe you could write down your thoughts in a diary and each week look back and see how far you have come. Take great care God bless you love Liz and Shelly🙏🌹

[skydivesurvivor]

But u get the chance to make a new, better? One!! At times it’s very hard. Why u friends are here to bolster you!! Chin up & GRIN to spite the frustrations!!! Oh & have a glass of WATER!! Keep safe

[gr33nmind]

Me aso. My dad had alzheimer's, and I also had an extremely severe injury. No one knows what the future will bring, so worrying about it now, is kind of pointless. I am 52, so I understand that if I will be losing my ability t think, it will probably be in the next 20 to 30 years. Still all I can do is work on today. I play chess daily to help build my cognition.

[Teazymaid]

Sorry to hear this Dann it’s just very difficult sometimes to to even understand how we are like we are .. for me is my stress levels high then so is everything else , noise , anger , today even the heat which I normally like was unbearable .. for me I can’t say I worry I just struggle doing / being in places that I use to love .. I’m hoping for me tomorrow will be a lot better and likewise for you the same … sometimes it’s a difficult place you be Sue x

[Dann2]

thank you everyone for your replies. i appreciate your messages hugely.

I can’t think straight or process events or emotions well at all, and this deeply concerns me. i find it so difficult to live with these issues. Head is ringing and brain feels scorched. it’s a personal nightmare, and i would scream if i thought it would help anything, but i just silently live with it and it’s awful. it’s unbearable when you can feel the damage and know that something bad has happened but you can’t do anything about it or make it improve in any way.

Fuck, i’m screwed with this and am now just rambling to a forum. I’d like to know how people live with brain injury, without going insane… how to interact with ‘normal’ people and society at large? without feeling devastated, ashamed and embarrassed… i don’t even feel in touch with myself, just disconnected and slow.

[sashaming1]

Can

headway.org.uk/

help?

You didn't report any brain injury so it may be an issue that a psychiatrist could help with.

[lcd8]

Completely understand. My short time memory is already dire. As other's have said though, perhaps its better not to think too far into the future. Try to live for today. Good luck.

[Dann2 in reply to lcd8]

Thanks. It makes it so hard to meet anyone special… i mean, who would want to be with me once they’ve learned of the things i’m struggling with? Do i just have to give up on any thought of a future relationship? in a way, i feel guilty bringing someone into my life, as i think i’ll make them so unhappy (with me). But i also want love and affection and a physical relationship. it’s so difficult!

[lcd8 in reply to Dann2]

Yes I'm sure it is. Cos its what most people want deep down. And I'm sure you deserve it. The right person for you IS out there, so don't give up hope. Remember though to try to put on a positive persona, even if you're not feeling so positive. Sometimes that makes you more attractive to others. Best of luck.

[Dann2 in reply to lcd8]

thanks. so sorry to put that question on you! appreciate your responses. hope you have a nice week.

[lcd8 in reply to Dann2]

No problem at all. And you.