confusion

[Dogsabighelp]

as you will see my profile picture has changed?gone from huge bull cow thingy to a photo of my boy and self.i dont know but the best i can do...this was taken last friday on our visit with dog,unfortunatley sean is bending down to pat dog but you cant see it?/him...i wish i could do better guys will try again.when i think about it,maybe i should have kept the horny bull thing,ive had horrible week..

[AndrewT]

That your Son is NOT seen, because he is Petting The Dog, do you Not have the best picture?

AndrewT

[Dogsabighelp in reply to AndrewT]

indeed andrew how are you?so nice to hear from you love

[cat3]

A horrible week ? Do you want to talk about it ? 🤔

The photo's fine m'love ; it shows love, laughter and normality. But come back and tell what's brought you down since your your upbeat visit with Sean last week.

Thinking of you D ........ Xx

[cat3 in reply to cat3]

ps 'bull cow thingy' cracked me up 😆 ! Hope you're ok though...... x

[Dogsabighelp in reply to cat3]

im ok cat love.gone for bus today to visit,didnt turn up,next door out with grandkids all day so...sean fine i think chinese tonite?im dealing with legal and army are pushing for an acceptance of pension package,its immense,and i need to do the right thing for him.and person that lived over road has done a flit and left cats,so we had police y/day.i dont want to upset you but it was really really bad.i live in a small village,this person was a care worker,im standing waiting for a bus and bombarded with questions...i have no understanding how anyone could do such things.i mean...why?

[cat3 in reply to Dogsabighelp]

It sounds overwhelming D ......not surprising, but just concentrate on seeing Sean when you can and looking after yourself and Socks. Buses not turning up can feel like the last straw, and animal neglect is heartbreaking but it might be time for some 'D pampering' to sooth any frayed nerves !

Are you using a solicitor or any other advocates for support with Sean's financial matters ? xx

[Dogsabighelp in reply to cat3]

oh yeah cat,solicitors care/support worker has been fab coming with me to meetings and ringing every week for catchups.she is unfortunatly leaving for a new job early in august,but assures me her replacement will be fully informed of our situation.reading over my statement made prob about this time last year was upsetting,seeing the man that hit sean being called a defendant,the insult of him allowed to continue his life without any understanding of what he caused/damage done is a lot to take.standing y/day waiting for a bus that didnt turn up bombarded with questions from pub locals asking why police,r.s.p.a etc were opposite my house.these of things out of my control,but they kinda affect you dont they?i look at my little best pal socks and its beyond how anyone would want to cause harm..though he has been a little sod this last week,everyones doors open cos of heat,he just walks in waggy tail/smiling hiya!it works for him,he gets a stroke and has had pork pie,chicken drumstick,half bag crisps,loads of sweeties,there really isnt anything i can do cat.he sits on lawn so innocently,little space in hedge where he can get out,you cant turn yr back for a second,he is off...its funny really cos some people try to bring him back(hes just done again while im writing,kids have brought him back!)my neighbours are used to him they just say go home socks.or i hear someone shout lesley,dog.im listening to radio 2 as always and cooking as i do.have a new freezer coming wed so im ok.i read back now,know you understand me,so all good but i swear i lose faith now and again cat.im alright thoughxxx

[cat3 in reply to Dogsabighelp]

Just wish I could give you a mighty hug m'love ! Even the strongest amongst us can buckle at times and need some love & words of comfort. You are loved by many here D, and I and others will keep rooting for you 'til all the officialdom is sorted and 'til Sean becomes the best possible version of himself....... 🤍 Xx

[Alibongo60]

Hi D, can still see the love and enjoyment in the photo of a special day to remember. Your boy has come such a long way, with his awesome mum by his side all the way as it’s always been . But why have you had an horrible week lovely lady lots of love Alice xx

[Dogsabighelp in reply to Alibongo60]

hey alice love,aww you know,"stuff".army pressing for acceptance of discharge package,having to sign a statement i made surrounding the days before seans accident pretty much trying to do the right thing(i know my boy trusts me)woman over road doing a flit and leaving cats to die in the heat,police,r.s.p.c.a ,council etc.myself standing in high street waiting for a bus to visit sean which never turned up(lack of drivers)so no visit all outside of pub while im waiting for bus asking me how many dead cats etc?socks doing a runner every chance he gets,he has been a sod this week!pub is just over road,cafe next to so he all good.thank god people know me ali...im good tho love thanks for caring,how you doing chick?

[Alibongo60 in reply to Dogsabighelp]

Hi D, I’m ok was struggling with that heat, made everything twice as hard, that must have been awful about those cats, I don’t understand people how they can be so cruel, we have always got our dogs from RSPCA, my rottie had her tail chopped off and our boxer cross lab came from a home of an abused wife, he was only a few weeks old but has always been a scary cat if you rattled pans he legged it and hide, he is ten now and still doesn’t like raised voices, he will get on the settee behind me, he was my life saver when I had my brain bleed, I was walking him, and it was his actions that attracted a lady to my aid, so he has paid me back. I know what you mean with the army, you want the best for your boy but they are very reserved. My girl gave them twenty two years as a trauma nurse, she can’t nurse now because of what she saw and had to do in Iraq and Afghanistan, she was on the streets of Basra picking up our boys after being blown up, so you can imagine, her life is a struggle everyday, she says to me she wished she had lost a leg than have mental health problems, because the help she gets is limited, once the army discharges them they are no longer there problem. I’ve rabbited on a bit there D not intended to, sorry, hope you can get sorted soon love Alice xx

[Dogsabighelp in reply to Alibongo60]

oh no no ali,rants are valid and necassary.have army cap coming again monday,i often wonder whos the soldier?i mean never would have been my life choice so i take as is.i remember my dad(a semi pro boxer before 2nd world)telling me he got £25 and a de mob suit couldnt fight anymore as he spent 3 yrs burma and he took on his hand.this cap fella likes mountain biking,mostly in majorca,keeps burmese mountain dogs and comes to visit me saying he understands?i very much doubt that he ever had to chose between eating and a bus ticket to visit your child?am i happy with what the army give to sean?is your girl?they saw things that cant be unseen.frankly ali,some dickhead saying this and that is nothing to me.i will hold and stall.i dont mind cos they dont matter,they have forgotten all these kids witnessed.i doubt that this cap was in al alamarah cooking and wakes up with a bottle of water between his legs or your girl seeing what other people are capable of doing to each other for what reason?there is a rant im soo vexed too!the cap can put his cap where it dont shine and i hope the dog bites him(he wont,but deffo jump all over him,he hates it)so hun thats me much love

[Alibongo60 in reply to Dogsabighelp]

Thanks D, I was supposed to be supporting you, much love that army man doesn’t know what he’s in for good luck chuck xx

[ored13]

Sorry to hear you've had a rubbish week. Don't be so hard on yourself. Know that is possibly the hardest thing to implement, but honestly. You have done SOOOO much and achieved mountains. The week will pass, pictures can be changed, replaced or edited. Next week will be better.

[Dogsabighelp in reply to ored13]

thanks for that o!i will be good again,we get the wobblies,if i can just stop dog from escaping id be good.

[Nanapal]

Hi D, you both have such joyous smiles on your faces - says it all. xSorry to hear you are having one of those more difficult weeks - but as we both know we can absorb them and push through to the next one. Where the resilience comes from I don’t really know but we do need to give our minds and bodies time to catch up - I am advising you as well as myself!

As you already know we have also had a stressful couple of weeks but good news son to be discharged from hospital back home on Monday. Having our grandson Harvey and his friend to stay today and overnight which always brightens us up - will have to pop to the shops to fill the fridge! Take care. Nanapal x

[Dogsabighelp in reply to Nanapal]

i love you lynne,get that fridge filled full of crap so them boys know they had a good time make sure our dougie gets some too!xx always my freind