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22 Month Update.

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Brace yourself; husband only got his NHS Plan this week.

It's taken me few days to digest with tears being on this journey and hold on 'Its only going to be put in writing'.

Part of me feels like is this real, are they pulling on my leg, but also emotionally I'm on my knees holding my arms up begging, I'm crippled emotionally and physically.

I still don't have words just tears as I still don't know how to really put in words doesn't help not at stage accepting still what has happened and at 22months doing all rehabilitation at home, no family, no friends, two kids, working and lack of professional input, totally lost trust.

Anyway, wanted to Share after 22months, husband finally has a Plan, We eventually got to this point, but anxious whether it will be delivered. Will keep you posted x

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Skallagrigg

So hope its a plan that works for you all and eases your life

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Pairofboots

Bless you. It's been a long road, and I'm sure it feels like it is still up hill. I've heard of these plans, but haven't seen one. I guess it gives a framework so you know what should happen, and can see whether care is delivered to a measurable level. I know that with all that has happened over the last two years to you as a family, and the wider world, both unimaginable, you are have the right to almost disbelieve you have arrived at this point, and there is something tangible to hang everything on. I really hope that it gives some level of certainty going forward.

Ian 🍀

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ksws

That sounds promising NB 🤗 I truly hope this works out for you and your family and that life starts to settle for you all.Hopefully, when you are not having to do everything and have time to breath you will find some inner peace in your "new beginning".

Adjusting to a new way of life is not easy and you will probably always yearn for the old days, as I do... but acceptance is hard to accept! if you call it adjustment its easier x

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Nanapal

Really pleased to read the ‘professionals’ are finally recognising you and your husbands needs. It shouldn’t have taken 22 months to get to this point - we all acknowledge the pressures on the NHS but this plan should have been in place a long time ago. You are one very strong woman to keep on going even when at breaking point. I hope this plan can give you a new starting point in the rehabilitation journey with your husband and supports you and your family.

I too will take on board ksws’s advice about adjustment rather than acceptance of our situations. Take care Nanapal. x

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froginthepond

Oh I do feel for you. I hope that this is a help and that you feel some support is at hand. It sounds as though you really need to feel you are not dealing with this alone. And as far as listening and emotional support goes, we are here for you on this forum. All stuck in the same leaky boat but there is a lot of understanding here and real empathy which the outside world sometimes lacks. Do take care and keep in touch

Vicki aka froginthepond

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cat3

SO good to hear N_b ! Fingers crossed it comes soon and that it brings the long, overdue support you so badly need and deserve.

Look forward to your update... Cat x 💐

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ored13

Oh thank goodness NB. This is really good news. You have worked so flipping hard to get them to sit up and pay some attention! You're some massive steps forward now through sheer determination and backbone! Proof is in the eating I guess, hopefully they will do enough, follow through and regain at least a bit of that lost trust.❤️

Fingers crossed that this plan will be as good for you as him indoors,will give you some breathing space and hopefully some peace at last,this has been a long and hard 22 months for you and I really do hope it brings good things for you❤️

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ksws

Hi NB, any further news on the "plan"?Been thinking of you and hoping for positives x

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New_beginning in reply to ksws

No not received n writing for 11th Feb meeting to discuss. Got app letter through but no Plan. X

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ksws

Well, fingers crossed it will arrive in time or they bring it to the meeting. Will be thinking of you on the 11th then 🤞🤗x

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New_beginning

Still not received in writing, hopefully next month prior to 11th March meeting 🙏

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