My partner doesn't understand...

[Joemaskell34]

My partner was amazing in the beginning but a year and half on he's struggling with me? My choices are sometimes wrong and he's swearing a lot calling me all the "Cs" and "Fs"

[Pairofboots]

I understand where you are coming from. My ex wife refused to try to understand, she refused information, and to participate in carer support. It is abuse, but it is also a sign of not coping. If your partner won't engage with support, then, all the past history counts for nothing in the present. You did not choose this, anymore than your partner, but you cannot help how you are, your partner can.

[Joemaskell34 in reply to Pairofboots]

It's difficult times

[Pairofboots in reply to Joemaskell34]

I understand how difficult it is. But you have to get across to your partner how you feel, this might mean that you get a trusted friend, the Dr, nurse, vicar, anyone that you both have a good relationship to help you get the message through.

It is difficult one to one, as we don't always recognise how we come across to the other person, so can lead to defenciveness, and blame slinging, which isn't the message that is needed.

I tried for year's, but I think it was a loosing quest in my case. It can be a big ask, for someone to except a different version of you, but it doesn't make it right that you take your partner's attitude towards you. It can only lead to resentment unless addressed.

My wife and I parted ways, it wasn't what I wanted, but I recognise that we had run our course. I'm at peace, and I have let go of how she was.

I'm not suggesting that that is right for you, but without calm honesty, then you have to consider your safety and peace of mind.