Sons controlling aggressive behaviour no where to turn for support

[janey61]

Hi my son is 23.. Has Abi and autism and hemiplegia very high functioning.. We've had a hard year.. Losing my mum his best friend.. His pet.. And carers been really awful.. Inconsistent.. Calling police.. He lives. Alone with support.. I fight behind the scenes daily and have finally maybe got some decent support for him but he. Sabotage. It.. Picking pfault and plotting revenge.. On those he thinks have. Wronged. Him.. Yesterday I went over got him a new. Sofa lot of. Effort.. Sorted his doctors as it was a mess and then tried to put music on his mp3 player it didn't go according to plan he. Lost. It attacked me.. Got v aggressive I. M sick of his negativity and moaning he won't seek help

Any ideas. I am his. Only family.. And he perseveres over all the negative people in the. Past and controlsy life.. Can add. More but it will go on forever.. Tried mencap headway Essex nothing to support really

[cat3]

Hi Janey. Sorry you're struggling to find reliable care for your son ; Autism and Hemiplegia sounds like a volatile mix. I have a severely autistic niece in full time care (consisting of two daycare staff and two night staff) but it took years of trial and error and a short period of abuse before accommodation, funded by the Autistic Society & local authority, was offered.

But now the local authority is threatening to withdraw further funding, so something which has worked so well for many years is now very precarious.

I can only suggest you phone the Headway helpline to see whether they can link you up with the appropriate agencies. The helpline no. is 0808 800 2244 (office hours/free calls).

Best wishes m'dear in finding the help you & your son so badly need. Cat x

[cat3]

hemihelp.org.uk/

Forgot to post above link janey …………… x