Reading a few posts

[Pat-rick1]

Im really not enjoying life right now,I just don’t have the motivation for anything.

Reading a few post on here made me feel worse .its was a reminder like a bolt of lightning.im not the same person and I’m not happy at all .the effort that goes into every single thing drains so much energy .its challenging just to go for my walk. This was not my plan . To mope around all day so drain of every emotion,trying desperately to be present.

So many things triggers my moods.

Ok right .i don’t no what I’m saying anymore. Have a great day 🤨

[cat3]

I think you're depressed because you can't have the life you want, which presumably is the life you had before the brain injury. Before this spirals into a deeper depression you need to accept that you have a new life now and the sooner you embrace it the easier you'll be able to move forward without such a daily struggle.

Your first post referred to 'Being back to normal' but that was never going to happen. Once you accept the fatigue as your new normal, you can start to congratulate yourself on getting through a day with the after effects of a damaged brain. And you can build from there, whilst remembering that you're able to progress further by slowing down, rather than expecting far to much from yourself to the point of burn-out.

Many people return to work too soon which so often results in their inability to cope and the inevitable disappointment. It's frustrating Pat but, once you've gauged your limitations properly, life will start to improve and you can move on with realistic plans.

Take care m'love, Cat x

[katram2]

Hello, I understand your frustration and anger over the speed of the recovery but trust me it gets better. Please be kind to yourself and know that recovering from any type of brain injury/surgery takes a while and can be difficult. Try and learn to accept your new "normal" and trust that some of that is only temporary.

I hope that you can take comfort as I did knowing that there are many of us out there going through the exact same thing. You are not alone even though I know at times it feels that way.

Good luck and stay strong!

Kat

[Blixstar]

Pat-rick1, We you me & all brain injury people are still here takes time to retrain the brain & it ain’t easy but you like us all are aware of this. People on here when I ranted other week all came & lent a hand & so I did as was advised & phoned headway. Just talking to the wonderful lady there was like a breathe of fresh air. I had injury 2001 & I still find it hard because I had no help for 14 of those. I don’t miss myself anymore coz like all lessons in life we learn to walk a different way. Hope you do have a good brain injury charity near you & the phone calls are free to headway. Take care 😉

[CH56Twin]

Hello Patrick

I am a little bit where you are at the moment. I am having to leave my job shortly (not doing it too well) and hubby is pressing me to find another job with less responsibility because I am now rubbish at responsibility - not through choice I might add. I do wonder where the old Clare is and where she went and I guess that you could say I am depressed. But I am more angry than anything else. I want to scream at the world WHY ME! Listen to the helpful people on this site, because that works for me and calms me down a little- I hope it can work for you. What I am trying to say is you are not on your own although I am sure if feels as though you are. Bottom line is - It is a crap deal and I think it is ok to say this because it is! The next step is the biggie - what you are going to do about it? And by God yes it is tough.So sorry Patrick I can't give you any answers, the only thing I can offer is what I do now - No plans for the future - taking each day as it comes and perhaps as some have suggested there might be improvement in the not too distant future. Please take care of you and try to be kind to yourself. Clare

[Kavib]

Hi Patrick, I have felt in a similar way and didn’t actually like the person I had become so I contacted the hospital head nurse where I was at and asked for help. They referred me to see a therapist. The sessions have helped me so much I could see the difference after maybe the 3rd one and I would recommend this to anyone who is going through a change like this.

Even after 3 yrs of my SAH I’m still doing neuropsychology sessions each month to help me adapt to new ways of learning and even help with my family life. I hope you can turn a corner here and this group is great to show you are not alone in this. X

[Pat-rick1 in reply to Kavib]

Hi Kavib , everything right now is challenging .my partner is going back to Italy in 3 weeks ,I’m trying to sort my benefits out . With all this going on it’s not easy, in saying that there is a part of me excited. Once all the dust has settled and I have a place to live and everything is sorted I focus on me

[Elkay_1954]

Hi. I wondered if you have anyone you can speak to who has also gone through a brain injury. I know my own son would LOVE to be able to have a coffee with someone who totally gets his feelings of frustration and who can understand the daily struggles that he faces. There is no one of his age living anyway close to us - which is a great shame. Talking can really help and, if nothing else, lets you know that you are not the only person going through this. x