What should I ask

[Pat-rick1]

Ok I’m seeing my counsellor this week about my accident, I done all the interviews etc and am anxious about this meeting, I don’t want to feck it up, asking or saying something stupid

[Kirk5w7]

Hi, a counsellor is generally about talking through the problems you are experiencing and helping to find a solution. So, theres generally not a right or wrong question.

This is about you and how you are feeling/ coping with your situation.

Your counsellor will ask you gentle probing questions to help you explore what is causing you concern and preventing you from healing emitionally/moving on with your life.

Dont be concerned or stressed by this, it is an aid to your wellbeing, you should be in control of this and your counsellor will have no preconceived ideas or expectations of you.

Janet x

[StrawberryCream]

Pat-rick there is no right or wrong with what you say to a counsellor. The appointments are about exploring your own thoughts and gradually changing the way you feel about some things that have been troubling you and moving towards having things being less troubling because you now understand, think and feel differently about your accident and its impact on your life. It is an extremely slow process especially when your accident was an extremely significant event in your life. You are likely to think you aren't getting anywhere and question is the counselling helping because it is a very slow progression over many weeks. It is a safe place to express you true feelings about what you went through and the impact on you. You can cry, get upset and express your frustration and anger about what has happened providing you express that in words and don't become angry and threatening to the counsellor. Stop worrying about messing it up because you won't. But do use the counselling to speak about things openly and honestly. Counselling is guided by you it is not someone quizzing you or telling what you should be saying etc.

Good luck and best wishes.

[cat3]

Hi Pat. Janet has explained a counselling session perfectly. All I would add is, keep a notepad handy between now and the appointment and jot down any concerns you have which you'd like to discuss with the counsellor. But he/she will prompt you to talk about yourself, so no need to be apprehensive.

It's not a test & nothing you say or ask will be judged. Love Cat x

[Pat-rick1 in reply to cat3]

Thank you, I’m over thinking again

[cat3 in reply to Pat-rick1]

You are m'love. Forget about it 'til the day, then take it as it comes. You'll be fine.............honest ! 😉 xx

[steve55]

what like i love you!!!!

thats what councillors are there for, to listen to your anxieties not to interrupt unless you asked a question, at least id be pissed off with mine if she did and let her know in no uncertain terms!!!

as youve said given youre statements, which must have caused a lot of anxiety,now youre going for a chat and a couple of biscuits.

[LindaHannah]

Hello, I think that you will be okay. The first session or 2 is about finding out - the counsellor is finding out about you and what happened, and what counselling can do. You are finding out how how the counsellor works, and what this means for you. I am guessing that the counselling has been arranged because of your head injury. Feeling nervous is okay, and the counsellor will understand you, and the impact of the brain injury for you, which you will further explore, and any other stuff. If you can find a rapport then it will be fine. Good luck xx