Family members and partners

[wayne1982]

When you had your bi how did it afect your faily did you became closer or did you feel different was it noticed that you had a bi how did you find relationships was you treated different

[wayne1982]

Family sorry

[paxo05]

Hi Wayne.

Did it bring my family together or split us. The answer is yes.

In more detail it nearly ended my marriage, but thankfully it may have brought us closer together.

As for the rest of my family well some ignore my differaces ( I should after all this time be ok) or just ignore me.

Yes I have changed....I even admit it know. But I am still me...Just slightly different. I do look the same...apart from a limp...And act sort of the same but still family members don't accept this.

I now feel it's their loss not mine.

As for friends I now have new ones as most of the old ones jumped ship after my bi. Some of it may be my fault some theirs. I'll never know for sure.

Basically concentrate on improving how you are and leave others to work out if they can cope with the new you .

Pax

[wayne1982 in reply to paxo05]

Totally agree with what you say what year did you have your bi and was it an accident or stroke you had mine was a road traffic accident

[paxo05 in reply to wayne1982]

It was 18 years ago. I was on my bicycle on the way home from work when a car turned heading towards me crossed in front of me. It hit me sort of head on sending me down a side street.

I don't remember much after the impact thankfully.

[irishrose48]

Hi wayne

My hubby had his on 4th july 2016

And to be honest the friends i thought i had they have all gone and so did family but i think its more a denial on there part

My life has been very hard with hubby to the point i want to walk out

I have had such low days with hubby

We also have had some good days

But i take every day as its comes

The good the bad and the damm right ugly times

I do know this if it was me scott my hubby would never give up on me

Yes he has changed

But we have more good days than bad now a year on

As for family and friends its there loss

So i say onwards and upwards x

[steve55]

wayne 1982 my wife and family couldnt help but notice a difference, for 1 iwas left with a speach impediiment........i swear every other wor word ( but not when im writing or typing because i have to concentrate on what im doing ) .

[keeley24]

I think it's hard for people to understand how BI effects people differently. When I had my BI my nan had booked a holiday for me my cousin and her. Should have gone nearly exactly a month after I had BI was in coma for a week but my nan didn't cancel holiday as she had expected me to recover back to normal on waking up. Knowing about BI now it seems daft anyone would think anyone could recover that fast but when you have never experienced it you have no idea what to expect. I now realise I did have a very fast recovery compared to others.

[CH56Twin]

My BI has meant I have less rows with hubby! My marriage of 40 years plus has always involved disagreements (polite version) but I think hubby feels at a disadvantage now as I absolutely make no sense. Well that is slight exaggeration- sorry. But as I often don't remember what I have just said and get wrapped in knots trying to explain myself I guess there isn't much of a challenge for hubby to get hold of. He often jokes - you can't row with the cat and has said he now lives with two cats - not sure if this is a compliment? However we do have a more peaceful and loving life. My other family members often forget my differences/difficulties and that can often lead to some hilarious misunderstandings.

Referring to your original question has it made my family closer? I have to say an overwhelming YES. I just think - lucky me.

Clare

[irishrose48]

Hubby is like that he struggles with words and at times make no sense lol