Positivity

[gabimou]

So true, so get rid of the negativity we sometimes surround ourselves with.

Keep away from the people who are like this it makes such a difference

[cat3]

I do try Mandy...............just not always possible, but agree with the sentiment. Hope you're ok m'love. x

[Kavib]

I completely agree ! I currently write posts on Instagram and do talks around the country on being positive and giving courage to be confident esp after going through any illness.

Please see my Instagram posts at @kavita_basi

I'm also writing for a local restaurant on positive blogs @thegardenhale

If you get a chance please watch my Vlogs Link below:

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[RecoveringH]

Yes and NO

With my therapist hat on I was an advocate for this view ' keep away from negative people, surround yourself with positive and it will rub off on you', indeed I would spout these words as a mantra to my clients regularly for 8 years, citing it as a solution to depression, as a solution to disentangle self from difficulties, to see a clearer horizon.

Having experienced a BI, and carried the flag of active recovery, there is no way on earth one can heal from a BI without going through days, weeks, months (depending on severity) of negativity. Pressure on the brain through inflammation compromises mood regardless of vitamins, exercise. Inflammation is needed to heal.

This simplistic view 'keep away from people who are negative' left me at odds with my self. Is it true then, I thought, that everyone should avoid me, ignore me, because of my BI, because I was predictably negative during my deep healing phase?

Thankfully some people ignored these words. They behaved, in spite of their own problems, selflessly by contacting me regularly, taking my negativity in short sharp doses, but never giving up, continuing to contact and call round at odd moments when I seemed on a temporary energetic up.

Thank goodness for them. Thank goodness some are strong enough to be around negativity and let it bounce off them, leaving a sense of hope behind.

[Matt2584 in reply to RecoveringH]

Hi H,

Last year, I took part in a cognitive course with my Headway and was told that a man who had a brain injury treated his injury by laughing. He would watch a lot of films that made him laugh and this helped him.

When you laugh, the brain produces a chemical that can heal. I suppose this is where the expression 'Laughter is the best medicine' comes from.

Also in the cog course I was told about another person who had a brain injury and treated it via pure oxygen treatment which I can believe and have read a thing or two about using oxygen.

I read not long ago that a person cured their cancer with oxygen. Cancer cells cannot survive oxygen/pure oxygen. I should think this is another reason for chemtrails, we are not getting enough pure oxygen like we used to.

The brain needs oxygen in order to heal, this is why I looked into Frankincense essential oil and it became my very first essential oil. Frankincense essential oil, when inhaled, sends oxygen straight to the brain but I'm sure you know that as you have mentioned Frankincense a few times.

My brothers partner has Neuralgia and his doctor told him about an oxygen treatment to ease the pain by inhaling puffs of pure air. My brother had never heard of that treatment before and I did tell him that I could understand that and told him about what was said at my cog course.

One thing I was surprised about was that my brother's partner's doctor is the one that told him!

It's usually doctors that are surpressing usedul information like this.

[RecoveringH in reply to Matt2584]

Hi Matt,

I underwent what some might consider an extreme therapy - ozone therapy - major autohaemotherapy including B12 and vit C to get near 100% pure oxygen into my blood stream.

I maintain my view, negativity is an integral part of the healing process. I think simplistically it can be explained as:

Body/brain thinks its fine. It is unaware of compromised behaviour/activity/memory/processing/executive function. Then it realises its not fine. Then it gets on to heal itself.

It can not heal itself if it doesn't register it is broken.

Best

[fredikins in reply to Matt2584]

Hi Matt,

I'm going to order some frankincense right this minute, thanks mate.

[2stroke in reply to Matt2584]

Matt2584.

Hope you're right, just sent off for my 10 ml, and burner. will let you know how i get on with it.

best wishes.

2stroke

[Matt2584 in reply to 2stroke]

Frankincense essential oil is not exactly a cure for brain injuries but is really good stuff.

I like most other BI patients suffered with fatigue. SUFFERED but not so much now. I am an artist and after a session of drawing, my right hand used to feel so stiff and felt kind of painful and fatigue would kick in big time, it felt like the lid of my skull was opened up and cement had been poured into it. My head felt so thick and my eyes would be heavy.

After a few weeks of inhaling frankincense right from the bottle I did not get so fatigued. I continue to this day to use frankincense and I also use other herbal remedies that can help brain treatment as well. Through one member of this forum, RecoveringH , I had found out about the Lion's mane mushroom which is said to aid in regenerating nerves. I have nerve damage through my BI so I thought this sounds perfect. I now drink a coffee and an elixir that has Lion's mane in it and I also have some Lion's mane powder that I add to certain foods.

[2stroke in reply to Matt2584]

Matt2584.

Have to admit i suffer more from depression than any after effects of the 2 strokes i've had. And that's through bereavement

of my wife.

Miss her so,so much . Feel so alone these days.

2stroke.

[Hidden in reply to 2stroke]

Sounds like a very tough time. Hope you're ok.

[Matt2584 in reply to 2stroke]

Very sorry to hear of your loss.

Before I joined my Headway in 2007, the six years prior to that was spent in near isolation for me. I say 'near' because I was living with my parents so thankfully I did have someone around. But I did feel quite lonely around that time.

I think I may have suffered mild depression as I was in a state where I basically had nothing going for me. I often thought "Is this it? Is this how my life will be now?"... Thankfully, it wasn't. I used to drink quite a bit at this time but I was easily talked out of it in the end by my dad :).

As I was in the house most of the time I did try to get out every now and then and have a little walk, it wasn't far, only around the block. I did not really have the confidence to go further afield.

So later on, i joined Headway, joined other charities, my motivation came back, my confidence was rising and I gained more knowledge too. I've leant more about herbal remedies and steer clear feom doctors and pharmaceutical medicines. Apparantly, getting outside amongst natureis supposed to help eleviate depression. When I first heard about that I wondered if the walking around I used to do was what helped me? Can't say for sure but it may have helped in some ways. I've also read that eating a handful of cashew nuts can help. Not sure if that is true but that is what I read.

I have also come across a few brilliant quotes in my time, one being;

"Your current situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come."

Which I think is a very fitting quote for me too :).

[RecoveringH in reply to 2stroke]

Cod liver oil or Vit D supplement (Immiflex) may help your mood. If not, see doc about taking St. Johns Wort - can clash with medicines so doc needs to approve - will help with bereavement.

Rose is the essential oil for bereavement. Look for a hand cream with rose in it and when sad, put some cream on and sniff! Great for winter time. Geranium is a great balancer of emotions too.

Some people were not meant to be there for the whole ride, some get off early, their light shone too brightly and their star energy burnt out too quick. She gave you many happy moments it seems, be joyful for those, celebrate them, redo them with family members like going to the park and sitting on that one bench you would share, create space for you to talk about your feelings, so that you can process the emotion. Bottling it makes it fester inside.

Given that you have 2strokes under your belt, you are a pretty strong cookie and that in itself is to be celebrated. Take one day at a time. You sure are not alone, reach out on this forum anytime to talk through any emotional blocks. On a practical level, this could just be your brain healing itself by creating inflammation to get the blood where it needs to be and in so doing, the swelling is pushing on your emotional centre. During healing my BI, I had incidents when I was emotional for things that occurred years ago, for instance, I fell off my bike when I was 7yrs old and cut my knee! I cried about that! LoL and then realised it was the BI mucking about with my emotions. She would not want you to be sad. She would likely be saying Go do what we were going to do , x, y, z, I'll be there with you in spirit!!

All the Best healing to you.

[2stroke in reply to RecoveringH]

RecoveringH.

Thank you for your reply,things looking a bit better today.sleep heals.

2stroke

[2stroke in reply to RecoveringH]

I've just ordered carnation essential oil and a diffuser,

supposedly good for helping sleep disorders,

my late wife and I always loved the scent of a nice carnation, weddings were a draw,sniff,sniff,sniff,bliss, carnation.She has one on her headstone.

[RecoveringH in reply to 2stroke]

You'll have to let me know how it smells on the diffuser Its not an oil I have used. Sounds wonderful. Put a drop in some hand cream for winter comfort

[Matt2584]

This is very true.

Negativity only brings you down.

My Dad is a pretty negative person. Almost everything is sod's law this or sod's law that.

I try to distance myself from my dad and it certainly helps :).

Positivity is the way forward.

Stay positive :).

Take care,

MJ

[Michael_e]

I am always positive but my partner is often negative but I don't find that she brings me down. I have only been seeing her for a few months though and she does seem a little more positive now. So I would argue not to avoid negative people but instead change them with your own positivity. It's not easy but I know it works

[Matt2584 in reply to Michael_e]

It has worked with you Michael and that is a great thing but as for my dad, well, he can't really be changed so easily.

[keeley24]

Being round positive people helps. First few years after my BI I only saw my mum regularly. Tried joining headway to get to know more people, unfortunally anything planned got cancelled due to not enough people interested. Tried various courses, but never got to keep in touch with anyone as we only saw each other a few times.

I moved to another area last year in hope of getting to know more people. This year I heard about a BI group that had been set up by a man who had BI though an unprovoked attack. He struggled through recovery with next to no help from anywhere apart from family and friends who obviously had no idea how to help him. He has now set up his own charity to help others in same position. It focuses on positivity, awareness, understanding and love. His name is Paul so a letter of his name for each thing it focuses on. Starting going there has been best thing I could have done. I haven’t struggled like a lot of people do but I have realised how lucky I’ve been and I am now getting into fitness and running with the help from the staff there. The woman who works there got a few of us in a walking group with fitbits to count steps and it turns out I am the only woman who does a lot of walking. A few of men do a lot too. Paul has spotted I do most walking in women and offered me personal training sessions to help me get fitter. He has never done this with anyone else so I’m making most of it. Never ever thought I’d get into running as I used to hate it.

[RecoveringH in reply to keeley24]

Enjoy your personal training sessions. I look back on the ones I had and still repeat them now when I can. Fantastic to focus on your body and have someone hold your hand while you do it. " I love you my body! "

[Hidden]

Different things work at different points in your recovery don't they?

Sometimes you can't cope with any negativity, sometimes the word positivity makes you close your eyes and pray for patience!

I found that working towards something that gave me a sense of purpose, brought the most sustainable feeling of wellbeing.

Love frankincense by the way. Know nothing of it's therapeutic qualities but does bring a bizarre feeling of calm!

[RecoveringH in reply to Hidden]

Frankincense is the oil of letting go x Breathing out until your lungs are empty, then slowly breathing in a full lung from an opened bottle of pure essential oil of frankincense physically impacts the chemistry in the brain immediately through the nostrils. Ahhhhhhhh that's better!