Decisions....Decisions....

[Negeen]

Does anyone else here struggle with making decisions? Like I seriously can never come to a solid decision. I have NO IDEA why it is so hard for me to make decisions.

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Me too --- planning anything is a major event.

[Nutkin33]

Yup. I know the feeling!

If it wasn't for my sister, I don't know where I'd be.

Only because I have a regular routine, am I able to go to a few places.

Good luck!

😉

[randomphantoms]

Hi Negeen

I think many of us struggle with even basic decisions like do you want a cup of tea? Do I?

As has been said having a regular routine (in my case a timetable) removes some of that difficulty as long as I remember not to try to play catch up when something like a day at the hospital or a holiday has interfered with it.

Glad to see you again. It's been a while.

Hope all goes well with your day.

Lovenhugs

Xoxo

[Steve49]

Hi.

Yes me to!!

Because off problems with my Memory Problems.

I find I have Big Problems with "Multi Tasking"

Mind you us male's "Can't" do this!!!!!!!!

So maybe I'm "Normal" anyway!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Steve.

[Huwbo31]

I have this problem too! I don't know what it is it's not the point of not being able to make my mind up I know what I want I just can't do it if you know what I mean? Or I think I do then I change my mind over and over again

Huwbo

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[Steve49 in reply to Huwbo31]

Hi.

Yes that's the same as me as I start things & something comes along & I switch over totally. Because off my Poor Memory I spend half the day looking for things that I had earlier in the day. My stair lift is very slow so by the time I get up or down I can't remember what is needed !!!!

Steve.

[RogerCMerriman]

I spend a lot of my time Planning and making decisions for work.

In other words something that is unchanged for myself.

[lcd8]

I struggle with decisions too! Funny though, I never equated this to my BI. I also have short-term memory problems.

[moo196]

Morning

Have been a bit like this before BI anyway - but have noticed a worse tendency since - improving somewhat over last three months . think it mayve got worse because I was dependent on others for so long - didn't / couldn't make decisions for myself ..... but now am back to independent living ( and with some help from rehab and remembering how I was before and the things like " what is the impact of my decision? " - if it's shall I have a cup of tea or coffee - not much ... can always have one later /change my mind .... or " shall I go for a walk/swim" - again - can change my mind - only do short walk/swim - or more major " shall I visit my son by train next week ? " ( slightly more scary prospect first time round post BI) . For me I try to think of " what if I DONT do xyz too -would I feel happy ? Pleased to be snuggled up in bed with a book rather than do xyz ? Or would I regret having that coffee rather than tea ? regret NOT going for a swim ? etc etc and for the major things usually decide yes and plan as much as I can ...even if the party I went to ( pushed myself to go to) was difficult/different - I knew I could come home when I was ready ......

I stupidly decided to water plants right next to tv/hairdryer etc this morning and spilt lots - that was a wrong decision but not the end of the world - all unplugged and will leave them well alone to dry out and hope will be ok in a day or two ...

Now- shall I have another cuppa before i go to the docs ??

[headwayuk Partner Headway]

Hi Negeen,

Thanks for posting this question. It's a common problem after brain injury, so much so that we've produced a factsheet on the subject.

You can download 'Difficulties with decision making after brain injury' from our website: headway.org.uk/factsheets-e...

Hope it's of some help,

Headway

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Negeen you're still around! I was getting worried.

[StrawberryCream]

Likewise Negeen, decision making for me is a real problem so much so that often things don't happen because I haven't 'decided' to be able to move forward with things! Its also linked with not being able to weigh up the information to know what would be best.

Did you manage to resolve your problem with your parents not willing to co-sign to enable you to take up your place at university?

[alamagoosa]

I was never allowed to make my own decisions. My parents made them for me. I still have my decisions criticized. Even by therapists. People undermine my ability to make choices.

[paxo05]

Hi

Guilty as charged. I can usually talk myself out of any decision.......then talk myself back again.

I tend to go on gut feelings and not over think things or I get into a real mess.

This is also true when following directions. Yes I have even argued with a sat nav and agreed with it at the same time.

I dont know if it is a confidence in ability or a glitch in our decision process.

Although I have been told it can be quite amusing watching me argue with mysel until I finally come to a decision.....then do the opposite.

Keep on being decisive ...or not

Pax

[Miss_Dizzy]

I go round and round in circles. Cannot act on decisions I do think I've made and ultimately achieve so much less than I used to its quite devastating. I am about to start some CBT and this one of several issues I am desperately hoping I can change.

I was not the most decisive person before the accident but now it's to the point of debilitating.

Think I'll be downloading that info sheet! Dx

[Bards]

Another hand in the air over here, and then if a decision is made it needs acting on ASAP or it'll wind up in the 'to do' pile, which needs renaming the 'unlikely to happen in a month of Sundays' bin...

As others have said, it's good to see you back

[Steve49]

Hi.

Yes mine as well.

I used to be a Manager before my B/I in 1998.

"Multitasking" was a daily/big part

of my role.

I was able to manage a small team of staff "OK"

But now I have to manage

"myself" all day.

No chance "Multitasking"

Now-adays!!!!!!

Mind you "Males Can't Muiltitask"

So I must be "Fine Now"

Steve.

[MXman]

Hi Negeen,

Yes know how you feel, I was always very quick on the mark with division making and never doubted myself before my BI but know I can especially if I'm brain fatigued. It was awful at first but I have learnt to accept it and now have taught myself to deal with it. I always used to question myself and beat myself up but its got a lot better as the time has gone on. Had my accident in May this year so in early stages but things improve and change every day.

Hope you have a fantastic day. XX N