My partner Sam got pushed in front of a car in June 2015.
At his best, he could write his name, make decisions by pointing to what he wanted, or nodding and shaking his head to questions, and smiled and laughed at funny things, and smiled when I entered the room. He knew who everyone was and pointed to me when I asked him who he loved/wanted to marry etc. He would give me squeezy hugs and kisses, and get upset when I left. Once he even tried to get out of bed to stop me leaving. Obviously it was heart breaking and hard, but we learned to live our new life together, and of course I still love him with all my heart. To me he is the same Sam as he was before his injury.
He has been in hospital for over a month due to pneumonia, sepsis, and an infection in his blood. the Drs say there is a slim chance of him getting over this. He has become vegetative and unresponsive. They are talking about looking into end of life care. My heart is breaking again.
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Oh Sera, I am so very sorry for you both. What an awful thing to happen after he was getting on so well. My thoughts are with you. Keep strong.
Jan x
Oh my dear what a horrible time for you. Be strong for him if you are able. You have done in the past - that is obvious. I'm sure you have the support from all on this forum.
Oh no Sera, my heart goes out to you. It puts my difficulties into perspective. Please know that we are all hoping and praying that he comes through this.
Life can be so cruel. It's truly sad to hear you're going through such a heart-breaking time. Just take each day half an hour at a time. Be kind to yourself and whatever happens, take solace in the love you share with Sam. It binds you regardless of outcome. Sending you all the love in the world .x.
Agreeing with the previous posts, life can be such an S.O.B. My injury was in March 1985 the operation shortly after. The first epileptic seizure didn't get me till August and stayed. I had 3 or 4 serious grand mal per day knocking me about. They lessened after 15 years. Time can heal ( for you and your partner, sooner better than later) . Good luck and best wishes. Dave x
I hope he improves. This would be a lot to contend with for someone without a brain injury never mind someone who has had brain trauma. He might be unresponsive if he is fighting off pneumonia. I'm not an expert in this.
Oh Sera, how upsetting to read about what you are going through. You are a true hero and I'm sure Sam is so proud of you and everything that you have done and will continue to do! You will find the strength from somewhere to continue to be there for Sam, it's in your nature to, which is so lovely! Your heart must be truly breaking looking on but you have to keep reminding yourself that you can only do what you have been doing and that is exactly what Sam needs right now. You must take care of yourself too tho, it's really important to look after yourself otherwise you won't be able to keep plodding on through the heartache. Lots of love and best wishes to you both. Life can be so very cruel sometimes. You take care. xx
Praying he comes through this, sending love to you both x
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