hi

[celtic2746]

to those ive had the pleasure of knowing on headway / action in depression ive just lost the best mother any one could have im devastated but trying to hold it together for my dads sake ! again god bless you all david

[debbie36a]

I'm so sorry to hear you've lost your mum it's a wound that never heals. Sending my deepest sympathy to you and your family xx

[celtic2746 in reply to debbie36a]

thank you for your kind words its appreciated x

[Broken_Doll]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, David!

My thoughts and best wishes are with you and your Dad.

Emma

[celtic2746 in reply to Broken_Doll]

thank you emma for your kind words ! david

[cat3]

Oh David I'm so sorry to see this news. Losing one's mum is a massive milestone in our lives, especially so when already struggling with depression, as I know you do.

There aren't any words, I know, which can ease the pain of such a loss, but I hope you can take some comfort from knowing that you are loved and cared about very much by many of us here.

Please call in, if you feel able, with news of how you're coping ; this will probably be the most testing time you've ever known and I wish you courage and strength. I shall be keeping you in my thoughts.

My sincerest condolences to you (and your dad).

With love, from Cat x

[celtic2746 in reply to cat3]

thank you for your kind words cat my mum was the best mum i could have wished for and its hard knowing shes gone ! im as my dad is struggling its early days and we will support each other ! the headaches are the worst thing about it they are so dibilitating and i always worry at the back of my head that given my previous bi that it might happen again ! cat take care and thanks for being there for me when i needed help.david

[Steve49]

Hi David. I'm so sorry for your bad news!!! Please let me know if there is anything that I can do to help!!

Talking to someone will make a big difference as they say a "problem shared is a problem halfed"

Please let us know how you are doing??

Steve.

[celtic2746 in reply to Steve49]

i will steve thanks for.your kind words david

[Steve49 in reply to celtic2746]

Hi David.

No probs!!

Just remember we are all here for you !!!!!!!!

So Vent Away !!!!!!

Steve.

[Steve49 in reply to celtic2746]

Hi.

No probs that's why we are all here to help & support one and another.

Steve.

[RecoveringH]

David,

There is a lovely poem - Death Is Nothing At All By Henry Scott-Holland. It has helped me in the past and I hope you find some comfort in the words.

The author, Henry Scott-Holland (1847 - 1918), a priest at St. Paul's Cathedral of London, did not intend it as a poem, it was actually delivered as part of a sermon in 1910. The sermon, titled, "Death the King of Terrors" was preached while the body of King Edward VII was lying in state at Westminster.

Death is nothing at all.

It does not count.

I have only slipped away into the next room.

Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.

I am I, and you are you,

and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.

Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.

Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone.

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was.

There is absolute and unbroken continuity.

What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you, for an interval,

somewhere very near,

just round the corner.

All is well.

Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.

One brief moment and all will be as it was before.

How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!

Holding it together for others - I did that for a few years - don't compartmentalise your grief too long - it starts to eat away at you. Sometimes sitting around the kitchen table with some brandy, in tears, telling the old funny stories with laughter is the best way to group grieve.

Wishing you peace and joy in celebration of the beautiful relationship you enjoyed. She wouldn't want anything less.

Best.

[celtic2746 in reply to RecoveringH]

recovering h thanks for that poem it was amazing and i will keep in mind thank you for your help david !

[aqua4]

Hi David, sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking about you and your Dad. Kx

[celtic2746 in reply to aqua4]

thank you so much !

[celtic2746]

ive tried to thank everyone individually if ive missed anyone out thank you david

[Nutkin33]

Oh shame. I am so sorry. Lease accept my sincere condolences and heartfelt sympathy!

😘

[BaronC]

Terribly sorry to hear your news.

My deepest sympathies and best wishes

Baron/Andy

[Sem2011]

So sorry to hear your news. My deepest condolences .

[malalatete]

Dear David

I don't think we have 'spoken' before but I would like to add my condolences to those above.

Let yourself grieve for your dear mum. Never mind holding it together...your dad is probably trying to hold it together for you. You both will miss her terribly, and that is very much allowed and should be shared.

I hope that between the pair of you, you are able to bring forward all the lovely memories of past times together. They are stored precisely for times such as this, to remind you that there is something of her in you that lives on and will always do so.

God bless you and your dad at this time x

[celtic2746]

thank you for taking the time to post your condolences ! ive been a member for 2-3 years and ive met some wonderful people who i regard as friends ! im touched by the messages thank you david

[angelite]

So sorry to hear of your loss, David.

I hope that you and your Dad are able to support one another during this difficult time. x

[leeleeleelee]

look she is there in your head shut your eyes

she didnt leave she is there forever

can you see her

i am crying im sorry

this did touch me