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A Sense of Humour Always Helps.

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G'day, I tried this yesterday but don't think it was successful! der!

After three wivies and two children neither of whom who speak to me, (that is until this morning, when my daughter text me). I think it's time to understand what has happened to me. After being involved in a car accident in 1969 and being left unconcious for three weeks and then having to learn to walk and talk again, I have gone through life looking from the outside as if I'm quite normal, however, three marriages later I've finally got the message! Slow or what!

I have found though that were it not for retaining my sense of humour I may not have survived all these years. Unfortunately though, sometimes I end up the only one laughing.

Back when we had the crash after care was not like today and even less was understood about head injuries, so, I'm a late learner but will get on top of it, it's never to late1 I hope.

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cat3 profile image

Hi Charly. I suspect my own sense of humour has darkened somewhat in the past few years and there might be a tinge of hysteria in the laughter, but I believe it's humour which has kept me and my family from going nuts throughout a prolonged period of distressing events.

I hope you can find any help you might need, despite the passage of time. Maybe ask your GP to refer you to a neuropsychologist or whatever is appropriate. But in the meantime, keep your humour bright & shiny and maybe give the marriage thing a wide berth for a while ??

Laughter is a proven benefit for healing and general health and I think many folk forget that, and the fact that it's free !! :D :-/

Take care. Best wishes, Cat x

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charlyfarley in reply to cat3

Hello again, thanks for your reply. Reading some of these posts there are people far worse off than myself or is it that I've never understood the problem until now?

As for the marriages, my present wife is my favourite so far! she puts up with my moods etc. and deserves more credit than I give her. Since I've been looking into this both of us have been learning how to cope with it and now she spends all her time in the kitchen doing her wifely duties!

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cat3 in reply to charlyfarley

It's good to know you have a supportive lady in your life Charly. Hopefully you can continue to build a good quality of life together which suits you both and gives you maximum fulfilment & pleasure.

I must admit that sentence 'My present wife is my favourite so far' had me in creases. . . . . . . . . . sounds like a line Henry VIII would have said !!

Take care of each other and stay in touch. xx

jesse-james profile image

hi charly .my head injury was 30 years ago so I no what you mean about having no after care back then I was told just to get on with it and yes no one understands my sense of humour they just think im ok because I can laugh if they only knew what I really feel .any way good luck trying to get some help ive tried since I had my c/arrest which caused me more neuro problems but not go any where yet

Danslatete profile image

Every day is a school day!

I'm glad you have your humour to help you along.

BaronC profile image

A sense of humour is essential! It's an absolute must, it's saved my sanity on many an occasion. And long may it continue for myself and, seemingly, yourself!


MedicalAngel profile image

Hey Charley

Sense of humour is key to recovery. I've laughed at myself many times, laughed with others and even laughed just because others were laughing (probably at me but who cares!)

Even when life looks or feels glum so long as there's Tommy Cooper, Rising Damp, Morecombe & Wise DVDs and your humour, life is a better place x

OldThingy profile image

I was prescribed some tablets which make me dopey but nobody can tell the difference . . .

Matt2584 profile image

Hi Charly,

G'day to you to sport.

Are you an Aussie or were you just talking in Aussie lingo? Would it be the sense of humour talking? :).

You are definitely right there about having a sense of humour getting you through this process we call 'brain injury'.

For about 5-6 years of my life, I did virtually nothing with myself. Staring at a wall and that was it :).

Nah, it wasn't that bad but it was very boring.

I ended up online chatting. I would join chat rooms and speak to other people half the way across the world. I would talk right nonsense at times but that is what got me liked by many.

I did find that the funniest person in these chat rooms was probably myself, not to blow my own trumpet :). It is amazing how I can fit my head through the door frame haha.

I did laugh a lot at some of the things I said and how I said these things in my mind.

I wish I ould be funny like that on the outside really like when I go to my local Headway meetings.

I am quite a quiet person really but I suppose you don't have to be humerous on the outside, as long as you are inside... If that makes any sense haha.

I mean, I might not be able to tell jokes or say much funny things in a social situation but my brain is more of the comedian :).

Glad to see another clown on board :).

Take care,


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