I'm driving my mom crazy

[Negeen]

So I have a confession. Every day when my mom comes home from work and every morning when she leaves for work I run over to her and cry my eyes out about my current circumstances. I'm driving her crazy, I tell myself every day to give her some space, but I don't know how to control myself! Tips please!!

[celtic27465]

Negeen I'm sure your mom loves you you are her daughter after all! I always worried about the affect of how my Sah affected my wife ! I remember her been asked by my brother if I was changed

as a result of my Sah would she still want me at home her answer was great she said it didn't matter as I was still her husband ! Try getting some quality time with your mom and discuss how you feel that will be the start of finding a happy medium of how you feel quality chat would be better for you both and allow you both to talk about you feel ! God bless you both and hope things get better soon David x

[Negeen in reply to celtic27465]

Aww thanks Celtic! She loves me a lot yes. We go out to lunch but im always a fretful mess lately it is difficult for me to have a reasonable conversation about it.

[iforget]

The shower is a great place to cry it out...your face is already wet so nothing to lose...maybe if you can get the crying out of the way it might free you up to actually be able to talk with your Mom about how you are feeling.... When we are a clingy soggy sobbing mess it makes them feel helpless but when we are able to talk to them they have a better chance of hearing us and will be a little closer to understanding...

Or maybe write a note to your Mom telling her how you feel, that you realise this behaviour must be driving her crazy and how much you want to be able to find a way to really talk with her about what's going on and how you feel.

At the end of the day no matter what your Mom is the one person who will always love you..even when you are driving her crazy....finding a way to let her help you to help yourself can only be a good thing for you both.

[Negeen in reply to iforget]

I knowww she does love me!! I love showers! There's something

about the water that distracts me. I have talked to her about it before and she's doing all she knows how to do by taking me to doctors and such. There's nothing more she can do, but I keep pestering her about my fears. I'm a bad daughter!

[celtic27465]

hi negeen thanks for replying what makes you a bad daughter your not a bad person just someone with intense needs just now im sure your mom knows that ! not having a good day to day going to see my neurosurgeon later to day and ive been crying all night ive got a fear of hospitals anyway but im afraid as to were we go form here regards me being unable to tolerate a mri scan ! i just wished it had never happened

[Negeen in reply to celtic27465]

I'm so sorry you've been feeling down! Please update us on your conversation with the neurosurgeon!!

[celtic27465]

I just hope I don't need anything done because I don't think I could take it I just want to get back to normal no mris no nothing