Falling in Looove

[Negeen]

Is it possible to find true romance after brain injury?

[RogerCMerriman]

I'm sure it is! In some respects it's probably more difficult with folks who's personality has changed, and does the other half love the new man/woman, and vis versa.

[Phat01]

I don't see why not, it's a strong human emotion. I think speaking for myself I would be cautious and take it slowly.

[B_S_A]

Absolutely! I'm sure it's been done before...

[Hidden]

My girlfriend has just moved in with me. We met about 18 months after I had a brain injury. She recons she wouldn't have fancied me before as I wasn't as in touch with my emotions.

[BaronC]

Most definitely! 6th December this year in Bakewell proves it!

Takes a bit more time, but everyone has 'baggage' it's just that our's is a little heavier than most. A lot of people out there, both sexes, have no problem at all helping carry that baggage for you. Of course, it puts off a large percentage of folk, but the genuine people are out there...

[Hidden]

I met my first wife at the age of 21 and married at 23, five years after my TBI. Big mistake, marriage lasted 18 months and we split, a divorce following.

However, during the three years we waited for the decree absolute I met an Indian lady and fell head over heels in love with her. To date I've known her for 40 years and been married to her for 37; three children - all adults [34/32/31yo] of whom we are both exceedingly proud of.

So yes, I think it is but with care.

[misswingit]

It's hard and confusing but ceertianly possible, I confused love with security just after my accident 2 years later to realise the massive mistake. Now 5 years on and a very confusing back and forth year with my fella I can say I love him. Because I simply can't control it. Not because I feel I should. Good luck x

[vjones2]

hard 1 this im sure theres decent men 2 love and love you for you but dont rush make mistake and get used as i did am i found myself giving all even money and hes no differnt a user just please watch this bit were veunable even if i hate 2 addmit it

[iforget]

Romance or love? Not the same thing

[Hidden]

NEW PEOPLE WON'T KNOW THE OLD YOU SO THEY'LL ONLY BE DEALING WITH WHAT YOU ARE NOW.

[Boo40]

I have been single ever since my TBI (8 years) with literally only one interested women whom we managed a very brief 2 day relationship before she told me that she didn't feel we had anything in common?

I of course put it down to my TBI and the walls went straight back up.

All I find myself doing now is 'window shopping' and any woman who shows the slightest bit of interest in me I'm full on.

I struggle to decipher lust from love, and still confuse my emotions...

[Hidden in reply to Boo40]

You are not alone here B40. I had a virtually uncontrollable libido and misjudged the intentions of just about any woman who spoke to me; a very trying time. [Note RA badge].

[Boo40 in reply to Hidden]

That's it, you hit the nail on the head, found the word I was looking for, misjudging their intentions! This is the beauty of email, it gives you more time to find the right words to use, and you can sit back and rest for a few minutes before you get the next spurt of clarity to articulate what you mean.

It is still the same for me now, even if a woman talks to me I automatically assume we are going to sleep together, crazy I know as I'm too good looking for ugly women and too ugly for good looking women!

Yes it is the Royal Regiment, served 18 years before using my car as a chain saw and taking down some trees at 120mph, bring on the TBI!

[Hidden in reply to Boo40]

After making a total dickhead of myself a few times I realised what was wrong and controlled myself. Eventually goes though. RGJ here just 2 yrs though.

[Boo40 in reply to Hidden]

I was taught how to 'self monitor' myself at Headley Court, learned how to realise when I was being 'socially unacceptable' and what I needed to do in order to not be arrested each & every time I left the comfort of my home.

Matters not one jot, RGJ (grunts) or RA (nine mile snipers) we're all brothers in arms.

(I was the intellectual part of the RA....) I was a 'cloud puncher' firing Javelin off my shoulder, close Air defence......2 yrs or 2 mins, matters not one jot, you served, and you were willing to pay the ultimate sacrifice for Queen & Country in their time of need, and in return, in our time of need we were promised to be looked after.

I have never been so sick, debt ridden, destitute, disabled, mentally harmed, angry, disillusioned, violent and politically activist as I am right now, I have been lied to for 18 years, promised I would be looked after if the need ever arose.

Now that time is here they turn their yellow belies away.

I will gladly be the new Guy Fawkes.

[Mikesghost]

I never managed to find true love before but I live in hope that one day I will find "the one".

[Andrews_Princess]

Yes it is. My wonderful boyfriend has a traumatic brain injury from a car accident several years ago. But I know what to expect. I love him for him and we work through his problems together. I wouldn't change him for the world.