Glutened

[Mia1057]

My stepson arrived yesterday and wanted to cook and today I have been glutened. My husband doesn't want me to make too much fuss but I really feel bad and don't want it to happen again. Any suggestions. I suspect that my pasta and the sauce were stirred with the same spoon as the non GF pasta or the veg and salad were cut on their bread board.

[Hidden]

Hi Mia, firstly I am sorry that you've been glutened and so unintentionally. Unfortunately history tends to repeat itself so I think it's better to make your son in law aware that you've been glutened and it's not what you say it's how you say it. So I would wait until you feel better and then have a quiet word with him on his own so it's not in front of anyone and let him know that you appreciate the gesture but you have to look out for your self so you have to talk to him about cross contamination. And keep your cool so talk calmly and deliberately, at the end of the day we are not coeliac by choice so stick up for your self and your needs.

And I hope that you feel better soon.

[Lynxcat]

Hi Mia, Oh what a shame this should have happened and I have to say that you are braver than me to have allowed someone else to do the cooking. Perhaps it might be an idea if he wishes to cook again to all have the same pasta sauce - they do some really nice ones at Morrisons in the gluten free section (if that's a help). Secondly, if he is likely to want to cook again then may be you could steer the meal selection so there is less chance of any contamination occurring. If you have some meal selections that would be suitable for all of you to eat together - cottage pie is usually a favourite - I quite mine made with lean pork mincemeat and there is nothing that contains gluten that can be added.

I do hope that you soon feel well again!

xx

[Lexy]

Hi Mia, I agree that you should definitely have a quiet word, thanking him for making the effort and telling him you enjoyed the sauce (if you did) and then perhaps just asking if he knew about keeping spoons/chopping boards entirely separate? Obviously I don't know what kind of relationship you have with him/whether he's a sensitive soul, but if there's a high likelihood of him cooking for you again you'd be better to 'nip it in the bud' now - or offer to help out next time, perhaps? Good luck and hope you find a positive way to sort this out!

[weee]

Oh dear, what a shame when he was trying to do something nice too.. I guess you do have to confess to him that you felt unwell and of your suspicions..

[FionaGFG Administrator]

Why not cook with him and demonstrate GF cooking & avoiding cross contamination so that way it's a practical joint activity.

I also normally just do GF pasta for everyone and likewise the sauce so there's less risk. Although we often do have a few arguments when one member of the family puts their burger bun right next to the gluten burgers. Ultimately most non-coeliacs won't remember how to avoid cross contamination so either cook with them or do the cooking is the safest route.