December Birthday !!

[Lilstep69]

I have a Birthday on the 7th and I’ll be a very old 49 year old still trying to look after my last 14 year old girl, I feel soo bad that the fibromyalgia and Degenerative Disc Disease have taken all but the minimum life from me ... I’m no hardly able to spend any time or energy with her as I did with my other three grown ups....🥴 and don’t know what to do as I think I’m adding to any mental illness going on with her😢

[Waddlewaddle]

Hi I know it’s hard but I am very sure your daughter doesn’t think any less of you due to your illnesses and perhaps the less time you get with her compared to your other children. Must be very hard, though it’s surely obvious you try your damned hardest despite your own difficult struggles. Having mental health illnesses on top of physical health conditions is very very hard, I have that situation too and I wouldn’t wish it upon anybody. having both doubly robs many things in life and having that support around us is key

[mcglada0]

It must be so tough having fibro and dealing with any 14 year old, let alone a fragile one. Is there anything that you could do with her that she enjoys. Even listening to her music or watching a film. I know that you would probably hate it but it just might let her know that you want to spend time with her despite your illness. I’m sure she knows that you’re suffering. I am very close to my grandson. If I’m feeling really bad I always say “ Granny’s having a bad day but don’t worry I’ll feel a bit better soon. Even when I’m feeling really bad we talk, play games ( cards) and watch telly ( what he likes ) . I know it must be so hard for you but please hang in there. Your daughter will be worried about you. Try not to fret about her too much as this will also be draining your energy and upping your stress levels leading to more pain. Kids are amazingly resilient. I hope that you get some relief soon. X

[mcglada0]

Ps - I know that what I do with my grandson is easier because I don’t have him all the time. I really understand how difficult life must be for you.

[robpw]

Lilstep I’m sure your daughter appreciates the time she does get to spend with you:). Maybe if you want to spend more time with her find some low energy activities that you can do together ... you don’t need to feel guilty at all. I know it must be incredibly tough for both of you being ill.