Born sleep

[Honey328]

Hello, I just want to say to everyone who is pregnant especially to women who are pregnant in third trimester please just take one advance from me. If you will think that your baby has changed the routine started kicking in different hours or is kicking more than normal please go to hospital. Please ask about scan go even if you are not pretty sure , go even if it middle of the night just check . I was in 38 weeks pregnant so close to have my baby I thought nothing can happen, and happened my little one born sleep just like that his heart has stopped and I couldn't do anything more. Was too late. I don't understand why in UK IVF pregnancy is normal pregnancy without any extra scans or care. Babies from IVF should be out around 36 weeks to avoid any kind of risk especially born sleeping which is more common with IVF. It's been hard seven weeks and If I could save at least one mum I would be really happy. Please always check pattern of your baby because my pregnancy was always perfect and tragedy happened anyway.

[HollyT7]

I’m so sorry to hear this after going through so much to get your beautiful little one 💙 I hope that your mind is kind to you during the coming days and nights xxx

[Elsiedee87]

Honey I am so so sorry. Such tragic and utterly heartbreaking news. Sending you so much love and strength as you navigate what’s next. Xxx

[Hopewhite]

I’m very sorry Honey , this is truly heartbreaking , it’s utterly unfair , I hope you have good support around you to help you get through this, I send you a big hug and lots of love and strength

[Honey328]

Thank you girls

[Eggfreezer2015]

I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you big hugs and I hope you have a good support network to help you xxx

[JoyB8]

I’m sorry for your loss. Sending you love and hugs . After all we had been thru with ivf this outcome is devastating. Hope you get support to heal

[XXKKXX]

I am so sorry to hear what your going through. I'm in UK and my little boy was an ivf baby. Our miracle after 18 years and consultant induced me at 38 weeks because i pushed for it early and im so glad i did. I was scanned every 2 weeks but somewhere between the 36 week scan and his birth at 38 weeks the cord started failing. My baby hadn't grown at all in 2 weeks and his birth weight was exact same as estimated weight 2 weeks prior. I dread to think if they kept me waiting . I don't know if ivf increases risk of cord failing but definitely agree if something doesn't feel right speak up . My gut wanted him out at 37 weeks and I wish I'd pushed for that week as we spent a few weeks in nicu with complications. Nobody should have to go through what you did . Sending you so much love and support.

[Honey328 in reply to XXKKXX]

I'm really happy that your outcome was different l, and baby survived. I can't change anything, I can only change my life for better. In my pregnancy everything has happened in the middle of nowhere and whenever I had midwife appointment everything was perfect.

[Gentleblue]

Heart breaking to hear, after going through all. stay strong, we here on this forum to support with what we can. Sending many virtual hugs. Thank you so much for sharing with others, really appreciate. Xx

[Honey328 in reply to Gentleblue]

Thank you for reading my post.

[Katsi]

So devastating. That is not your fault honey, sending you much love and hugs, and thank you so sending this message across. I hope you get all support from your loved ones now. Xxxxx

[Nes1005]

So sorry for your loss, there aren’t the right words so just sending love and hugs. xxx

[Honey328 in reply to Nes1005]

Thank you

[AJKP]

I'm so so sorry to read this heartbreaking news, I'm so sorry for your loss. There are no words of comfort but sending virtual hugs. Thank you for bravely sharing your story and thinking about us other women at this difficult time for you. Please take care of yourself xx

[minny_223]

I’m so deeply sorry to read about your heartbreaking loss. I cannot imagine what you’re going through right now, but I just wanted to say that I’m thinking of you xxx

[Honey328 in reply to minny_223]

Thank you so much

[Crie1983]

I am so sorry to read this. I can’t begin to imagine the pain you must be feeling right now. Thank you for sharing your story at such a difficult time. Sending love and strength your way. X

[Honey328 in reply to Crie1983]

Thank you so much

[Christianbaby]

I am deeply sorry for your loss and truly appreciate you sharing your experience. Thank you for your bravery in sharing such a personal and painful experience. Your words could save lives, and your strength is inspiring. Sending you much love and support during this difficult time. Hugs. xx

[Honey328 in reply to Christianbaby]

Thank you

[Positivechangeplease]

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

[Honey328 in reply to Positivechangeplease]

I really appreciate that.

[Chinese13]

I am so deeply sorry for you loss. This is so devastating. Sending you so much love and hugs xxx❤️

[Daughterofaking]

this is a very painful thing to read. My heart goes out to you and your family. I pray God give you double for all the pain. I send you big hug and strength as you move on to a greater testimony xx

[Honey328 in reply to Daughterofaking]

Thank you

[Blessed5510]

I’m so sorry! My heart is breaking for you! I don’t have any words to say. Sending you a hug for some kind of peace. Did they tell you want happened. I think about this everyday 😢

[Honey328 in reply to Blessed5510]

Hello, I haven't got clue what was wrong I'm gonna gonna have result between 6-12 months. Unfortunately you have to wait for ages in UK for any result after post mortem plus my placenta and different genetic tests . Everything should have come together.In couple weeks maybe months I am gonna have also meeting where they will once again from the beginning will check my history of pregnancy.

[Citizenerased83]

I'm so so sorry for your loss. There are absolutely no words. I really hope you have a lot of support around you to help you through this horrendously difficult time. Sending you so many hugs. And thank you for thinking of others when you're going through this and letting people know what to look out for. Xxx

[Honey328]

That's really nice warm words. Once again thank you everyone so much for all this kindness.

[MrsOrangejuice]

I am so so sorry. It's unimaginable what you have been through. And having the compassion and care to think of others at what must be a time of extreme pain and sadness... You must be the most kindhearted person and I truly believe your post will save lives so, just, thank you.

[Honey328 in reply to MrsOrangejuice]

I said to myself that God had different plan than me and my husband. Sometimes you can plan as you want but the last word doesn't depends from you. This situation showed me that you can do everything only if you want . Missing this little small person, my little Cobe is extremely hard, that's the hardest part. I found energy I asked Cobe to give me strength for every day and I am strong because of him and for him. This is part of my life, but with time I'm gonna be able speak about Cobe without the tears , being grateful that I could give him short but happy life where he could feel only love and no pain.

[Axel131 in reply to Honey328]

I'm so very sorry for your tragic loss. I lost one little boy at 30 weeks and another boy at term lived for an hour after birth so I know the pain all too well. You are so wise already so early on in your grief journey when it's all so raw and painful. You will always miss your beautiful Cobe but it won't always feel this painful. You will come to think of him and the beautiful life full of love that you gave him, with more love than pain. A term I love from the grief work of David Kessler is 'cherished wound'. Already you are helping people with your story and I hope this allows you to feel a bit of strength and comfort during this time xx

[Lou1616]

I’m so very sorry hun. My prayers are with you xx

[Honey328]

Thank you.

[Mercury363]

Devastated 💔 for you lovely. Stay strong. So sad to read this x

[Honey328 in reply to Mercury363]

I will stay. Thank you

[Coming_up_Roses]

I'm so sorry for your loss of your beautiful little Cobe, and for your deep heartbreak. It's truly devastating. I lost my baby boy Louis at 29 weeks back in 2021. For me, it is a grief that I carry always but with time, and tears, and processing, my world began to make some sense again around my loss. And I am forever grateful my little Louis chose me as his mama. Be gentle with yourself, this is such a raw time. Sending love 💛

[Blessed5510]

just checking in on you! Sending you hugs and prayers!

[Honey328]

Still trying to stay positive.