TW success - One embryo left

[pink_lemon]

Hello ivf warriors,

this would be sensitive to those at the beginning of the ivf journey but I am hoping there are still people around who could share their views from their own journey on where we are at.

After a year of unsuccessful tcc, 2x mmcs, 3 ivf rounds, one easy and one scary pregnancy, we have 2 beautiful children. We only ever got 3 5 day blasts. 2 euploid and those are our children. One embryo from the 1st ivf round is still in the freezer awaiting its destiny. It came back with no result from the PGT test. Given we had 2 mmcs we wanted to get control of the chromosome counts to avoid more miscarriages and loosing time. This last embryo is a 6 day BB.

We are content with our family, which is keeping us busy but I think about this little embryo every day. I look at my children, who one day were also just a rated embryo and wonder what this little one would be like as a person. I cannot imagine just leaving it there to perish. Not interested in other avenues and basically deciding between transferring and seeing what happens (with the risk of another miscarriage or uncomfortable decisions if any tests during the pregnancy come back not good, also risking another rocky pregnancy hoping for a good outcome) or trying to test the embryo again risking the embryo won’t survive or comes back with no result again. If it came back euploid we could decide at that time if we can properly take care of another child. I frankly don’t believe that embryo is euploid give the typical stats, we have been blessed beyond what we ever imagined already. I am aware that the pgta test are not 100% accurate and that embryos can correct after implantation. And all that knowledge makes me more stuck where I am.

We are already 42 so would have to hurry up, which again makes it more difficult (I would happily have another baby if we could space it a little more. There are implications on my job, on our finance on our marriage (2 under 2 is already hard enough with no help) should we be hurrying into another pregnancy and it was successful.

But this embryo is our child, just like the two we lost were.

Just looking for thoughts or experience if anyone has been there or similar, between the two options being considered.

[MammaMia86]

Hi Pink_lemon

It sounds like you have lots of doubts, which I believe are normal in the circunstancies....If I were you, I will start testing the embryo....at least with that information you can make the next round of decisions.

I know in my case it will be imposible to have 3 kids, but due to economical reasons.....sounds terrible, but I am realistic. If you have the possibility I think that you should talk with your husband and come up with a decisition together, and whatever you decide will be the correct decision.

good luck

[Millbanks]

Hello lovely,

Personally I would have the embryo tested - because then you will know either way.

If you just transfer it - you go through all the meds, appointments and hope and it may not be viable. If it comes back as euploid at least you know it has a chance.

xx

[WHeatherW]

I'm about to start my second round of IVF (first round only got one embryo). I'm reading your story with a big smile on my face as it's reminding me that this whole journey can actually produce happy endings and one day I might even have to ponder if I want to add another child into the family (keeping everything crossed that's the case).

I've always dreamt of having at least two children and now that seems to be a distant dream, so I would say - if you have the chance to do it - do it! Everything else will work out in the end x

[pink_lemon in reply to WHeatherW]

Hello, thank you for replying. I am glad our journey gives hope. I will never forget the times when I thought we would not have a baby at all or when we were told we had a 30% chance leaving the clinic with one baby. I realise how lucky we are. I hope that you (and everyone else whose circumstances lead them here) is equally blessed one day.