the never ending hurdles

When we did our 2nd icsi cycle we were told there was a 2% chance of total fertilisation failure, well, we were the 2% and none of our eggs fertilised. Now when pgta testing following our 3rd cycle we were told there was a 2% chance our embryos wouldn’t survive the thaw…and guess what, our top graded embryo showed signs of slowing once thawed and we’ve been told it may not survive when thawed for transfer if euploid.

I just dread to think what our results will be now if this is the sort of bad luck we’re up against, it’s so hard to stay positive in this journey.

Dont even know what the point to my post is, just a moan I guess. And has anyone been told their embryo was slow and then went on to become a successful pregnancy?

[BabyDust23]

Hi Elsidee11, I can’t relate to what you’re going through but I didn’t want to pass by without saying that I am terribly sorry for what you have been and going through and I wish you all the best. Fingers crossed you have some good luck coming your way 🤞🏼xx

[Hidden in reply to BabyDust23]

Thank you 🫶🏻 as soon as I hung up the phone an invoice entered my inbox. I really hate this journey 😔 congrats on your bfp and wishing you all the best x

[BabyDust23 in reply to Hidden]

😔 that’s terrible! Such a hard journey, fingers crossed it is all worth it 🤞🏼

Thank you 🫶🏼x

[Kitkat10]

I’m sorry it’s such a tough road, from 4 collections I only ever had 1 time when I had something to freeze, the other 3 resulted in 1 embryo only.. so I can’t help on the thawing front but I can say from experience that if can just hang in there, at the times it feels the most hopeless, all of a sudden it can work and everything suddenly seems to turn around. I had my worst egg retrieval, my worst number of fertilised eggs (one) and then when I felt totally hopeless, it worked! So, I know it feels like everything is against us but try and keep going, there is still hope. I have everything crossed for your little embryo to be your one 🍀🍀🤞🤞

[Hidden in reply to Kitkat10]

thank you Kitkat10 for the hope and positivity and for sharing your difficult story - stories like this on this forum really really help me keep going. It’s easy to let your negative emotions just take over and think ‘I’m just going to quit - it’s too stressful and we can’t afford it’ but we didn’t get this far to just get this far!! Wishing you all the best 🍀🍀 xx

[PinkCat22]

I just wanted to message to say I’m sorry. And that I’m sending so much love. It’s so unrelentingly hard at times, isn’t it? Thinking of you and sending a big hug xxxx

[Hidden in reply to PinkCat22]

Thank you PinkCat22 - it’s definitely a one step forward two steps back scenario. Just hoping there’s at least one euploid so we can go ahead as planned. I just had a lot of hope in our only frozen 5AA 😔 but like others say, it’s sometimes the lower graded ones that go on to survive. Xxx

[PinkCat22 in reply to Hidden]

It’s so true. And also being PGTA normal does, as Skittles11 says, trump the grading. I have everything crossed for you ❤️

[Skittles11]

Hi ElsideeI don't know if this reassures you at all but I have had embryo testing as I think you know and my euploid embryo was the one of a slightly lesser grade. The PGTA trumps the visual grading as far as I am aware, and I have seen lots of positive stories from PGTA normals even when the grades were not top grades.

Also relate to being on the wrong side of statistics - its happened me to me as well, more times than I can count. I think I have lost the ability to cry about it as I just expect to keep getting handed the crap hand.

Hope you are doing okay. The wait for PGTA results is hard x x

[Hidden in reply to Skittles11]

Thank you Skittles11 - sometimes I wonder if they make these statistics up and actually the risks are just much higher. Who knows.

Fingers crossed, but we’ve been told we won’t know til end of Jan 🥹 it’s an anxious wait.

Hope you’re holding up ok, sending lots of strength xx