Time to grieve? 3rd neg after blastocyst transfer

[Lmfx]

I’ve just had my 3rd negative after blastocyst transfer.

Amazingly we have 5 more frozen but this one has hit hard.

I’m already onto adjusting up my supplements in line with ‘it starts with the egg’ for frozen transfers, restarting acupuncture as I had stopped, self-care and counselling.

Weighing up how long does the body need to grieve (how long is a piece of string) to go again? What’s everyones thoughts?

We only had 1 cycle break last time.

I will be back on positive mode soon and wishing to go again but I expect if this happens again it’ll be harder.

We will be trying lubion and embryo glue for the first time next time. Might even do 2 embryos but not sure re. the risks…

Feeling a bit numb, waiting for my period and when it comes I expect I’ll feel a bit more free.

[WillowPark]

Hi Lmfx. I've just had my fourth transfer. I felt like you after my second and third. One thing to consider is that I often feel like the next cycle doesn't "start" until close to transfer on an FET. I've started cycles with estrogen tablets and didn't feel mentally in the right headspace for it, but once we got to transfer I felt prepared. To begin with you don't really have to do much on a frozen cycle so it doesn't feel so intense. On that basis I've cracked on with a one month gap each time and haven’t regretted it so far. Hope that helps x

[Lmfx in reply to WillowPark]

Thank you so much. That's really helpful to hear. I feel like I will regret it if I take too much of a break because of the body clock and it feels like no matter how long I wait, 1 month or 6, I'll feel the same and perhaps worse because I waited. It's already been 4 years of trying. There are so many opinions and its so nice to hear from someone who has been in the same position. I feel like the winter is also always harder too, I think I am affected by SAD and so things can feel a lot worse when its dark and cold x

[WillowPark in reply to Lmfx]

Yeah definitely - Christmas in particular has a way of making this worse too... You can always book in and delay it if you are really struggling but I genuinely find that even if I'm not engaged, as long as I'm not freaking out and taking my tablets it is all fine. Everyone is different though so go with your gut x

[Lmfx in reply to WillowPark]

Thank you. Our timelines are quite similar, wishing you all the best on your journey and your current cycle xx

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Try not to be so hard on yourself This is a very stressful journey you are on and the extra hormones only add to the mix Ask the clinic if they can suggest anything changes to your treatment protocol that might be helpful

Thinking of you

Janet-Partner

[Lmfx in reply to JA-fnuk]

Thank you x