Sharing a bit of worry - waiting for Day 5

Ive managed pretty good with the “unknowns” of treatment so far until the call from the lab this morning - we had 10 eggs collected earlier this week, and 10 fertilized, today day was 3 day update - 4 are slow, 4 seem ok, 1 somehwere in between slow/ok and 1 out of the running. Lab tech also gave me lots of numbers which became more confusing than anything 🤪 (this is our first round and I really haven’t come to terms with all the tech side trusting instead that the nurses / lab peopleto make the right choices, which I still do trust).

But can’t help feeling worried/ tearful that we’ve gone from 10, to 9 to probably only 4 good ones to ??? (Potentially nothing 😰) for Day 5 transfer.

Trying very hard to not worry as that’s not going to help the embryos do any better in a tank halfway across the country, but still …

opting for the “a worry shared is a worry halved” theory.

Any tips for things to do during the 30 minutes lying down waiting for the pessaries to absorb that doesn’t include worrying 😂🤔

🤞

[SianieShorts]

it’s so tough and just when you think you’ve got it sussed something grabs you and the worry sets in!

You will have heard it before, but it really does just take one!! Quality is better over quantity… and yet here we are, we all get transfixed on the numbers 🤣

My first round of IVF, I got 7 eggs, all fertilised and only 3 made it to transfer day. One of which is my 4 year old boy!

Keep the faith, sending love x

[TeddyBear5]

hey just to say the same really, I got 8 eggs, 6 were mature and fertilised but only 2 made it to blast. One to the freezer and one is my son. Defo quality over quantity and having 4 doing well is amazing xxxxx

[ki50]

Hi whirlybird. Fingers crossed that you get good news on day 5! Re. What to do when waiting for pessaries to absorb, after the transfer I listened to a podcast which was an implantation meditation, which I found really relaxing and helpful. Hope the link works!

open.spotify.com/episode/2G...

[Hidden in reply to ki50]

thank you for that! I will try it!

[Sparklylife]

Oh it is so hard! I actually found that wait the hardest! Oh and the wait before transfer! As I kept worrying that something would happen to the embryo while I sat waiting. There are so many moments that just catches you out.. but you got this!! We had 9 eggs collected, 8 fertilised and 2 made it to day 5 blastocyst. It is such a nerve wracking phone call! Sending you hope 🧡

[Twiglet2]

it’s defo one of the more nerve wracking times I think it’s because, like you say, your embryos are somewhere else and there’s nothing we can do at this stage to influence things. I have to say though your numbers look good and if you did end up with 4 embryos that would be absolutely amazing! Out of our first round we had 10 mature eggs and got 4 day 5 embryos and one of them was our son. 2 of the slower ones did also make it to day 6 as well that were good enough for freezing so I wouldn’t give up hope on them either! It sounds like you have lots of reasons to still be hopeful for a day 5 transfer and maybe 1 or 2 in the freezer too in case needed 🤞🏽hoping for your embryos along with you xx

[MaidinKernow]

Hi whirlybird83

In our first round, we went from 7 eggs at collection to 4 fertilising (we are doing ICSI). We ended up with 1 to transfer and nothing to freeze which was hugely disappointing. It didn’t take.

This second round we are currently in, we got 9 eggs at retrieval and 6 are meeting their milestones at Day 3. Our transfer is Saturday so we are keeping things crossed we may have something to freeze too this time.

Everyone is on a different journey, but you are totally right to trust the medical team. They won’t freeze anything that isn’t viable and whilst it is brutal at the time, they are saving you from false hope.

In terms of the pessaries - I’m doing a nice cross-stitch which is keeping me busy! This group is super helpful, so do keep reaching out.

Sending you love and happy thoughts xxx

[Hidden in reply to MaidinKernow]

thank you and I hope your transfer goes well!

[Hidden in reply to MaidinKernow]

I’ve also been doing some stitching! I’ve been making birds to hand on the Christmas tree!

[Eggfreezer2015]

I have not got to that stage yet but have it yet to come and I can appreciate how you are feeling. From all the posts they all say it only takes one and it’s true. Sending you lots of positive vibes xxx

[Hidden]

just an update - we had a transfer today - we did have 1 to transfer a 4CB. I have to say I burst out into tears when the doctor told us the grading. After everything to end up with something that has such poor chance. I’m absolutely gutted and almost just want to give up - part of me wishes it wasn’t even transferred (it all happened so quick I fee I had no time to talk to my partner about what we wanted or felt). But why put myself through all the ongoing hurt and stress waiting for a failure that is inevitable.

Really gutted and upset.

[Missl73 in reply to Hidden]

I have my fingers crossed for you. Grading really isn’t everything honestly. I only got 1 embryo to transfer from my last cycle, a 4CA so very similar grade and I also cried with disappointment when they did the transfer…. Well right now I’m 38 weeks pregnant with that one little embryo so please don’t lose hope yet xx

[Hidden in reply to Missl73]

Thanks, but its very difficult to be positive. All I do is cry. Im so angry at the clinic for not telling us a bit earlier, even just given us 15 minutes after they told us so my partner and I a chance to talk it through. I feel like its all happened and now the pain has to drag on for another two weeks. Ive got absolutely no faith at all.

Thank you for your success story!

[Missl73 in reply to Hidden]

I get it, I felt very much the same I had my legs up in the stirrups when they told me. However, now I’m obviously very glad I gave that little embryo the best possible chance by putting it back inside me. Grading is just a beauty contest, and it is subjective two different embryologists may give different grades. I will hold out hope on your behalf xx