First Natural FET and Feeling Scared

[GabyNgelik]

Hi!!

I will be doing my first natural FET cycle after my fresh transfer failed, and I am so scared. Although, I am trying to be positive, I keep having thoughts that I am not doing enough, so the fear of another failed cycle creeps in my mind.

In part I wish that I had more answers about what could have gotten wrong on my fresh transfer, and what can I do to improve my chances on this one.

On my fresh embryo cycle, I got sick the next day of the transfer and keep thinking: “what if my immune system killed the embryo? Although the dr assures me that “most likely not”, I keep asking how do we really know? Will my body fight the embryo again?

I am trying all my best to eat healthy and be stress free, but that fear just comes and makes me doubt my efforts.

I honestly never thought about how difficult this whole process would be and Im just seeking support by venting.

Thanks guys!!!

[yep586]

Hi! I completely understand what you’re going through, although my fresh cycle resulted in termination at 12 weeks (genetic condition), I was so scared about going for another round and all the uncertainty that came with it… I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong, it depends on so many factors and once it sticks it sticks but please (so much easier said than done I know), try to stay positive. I was so stressed about doing my 3rd round of IVF but it worked and I was not eating that healthy or keeping active as I should have. I was so scared I didn’t tell my family until I was 6 months pregnant! My advice is take one day at a time and do some yoga if you can or breathing (you can download feee apps to help you relax). I hope this helps and I wish you success 😀

[GabyNgelik in reply to yep586]

Thank you so much for your reply. When I started this process I did not really understand what genetic testing of the embryos or us was, so we opted out, and now I think I regret it. I appreciate your advice and it is comforting to read that you lived normally (not 100% healthy) and still got your pregnancy. I will seek distraction to remain calm and keep my mind off this. I will also try acupuncture. Hopefully that helps. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🙏🏻

Thanks again.

[yep586 in reply to GabyNgelik]

You’re very welcome! We were offered genetic testing of the embryos but we weren’t interested (after reading the embryos can correct themselves in the womb, also I didn’t want to play god). We did do genetic testings on ourselves after multiple miscarriages (IVF and natural). I think too many tests can cause so much stress so don’t regret not doing it! I forgot to add that I suffered with anxiety and panic attacks and still had a healthy pregnancy. Our bodies are clever machines and we just need to trust the process. Acupuncture sounds really nice! I was going to try that but it was during covid and I was too scared as I wasn’t vaccinated. Good luck! 😀👍

[GabyNgelik in reply to yep586]

Wow!! This was really helpful. I also suffer of GAD and maybe that is why I am so fearful. It’s like I cant stop over thinking. Also I think you are right about playing God with the genetic testing. I just need faith.

Thank you so much!!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Gaby. You have obviously been well advised and put a lot of thought into this cycoe, so go with it and I shall be thinking of you BIG! Diane

[GabyNgelik in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you. There is no other way, but forward.