Why is it such a mind game!!! Tests dark light dark!!!!! Help my sanity!

[Kjc999]

So see photo attached. They all have the DPT on them.

I have had 3 chemicals before so I am super wary and thought it was all over at 0500am today (10dpt) 😭😭😭 lightest rest yet. THEN..... thought I'd test this evening and it's the darkest yet!!!

Has anyone had this? This is seriously playing with mine and DH heads! 😫

Thanks in advance x

[Beechnut1]

These lines look great, step away from the tests! ❤️

[Kjc999 in reply to Beechnut1]

Thanks. Its so so hard! I honestly thought it was over this morning as it was so much lighter! And then this evening I am shocked! I just don't get it! Thanks for your reply 😊

[Positivechangeplease in reply to Kjc999]

It’s just to do with the amount of diluted urine. Congrats and as Beechnut says… step away from the tests they won’t help you any more

[Kjc999 in reply to Positivechangeplease]

Thanks x

[Cinderella5]

I've been here a while and although I never tried it....I've seen lots of ladies say they get darker tests PM, no idea why! Best of luck, your latest looks great!xxx

[Kjc999 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks for your reply! The test this morning was such lighter! It was such a shock this evening.

Everyone always says to test fmu. But I must be weird ha ha. Its such a roller coaster! Just praying this emby sticks 🙏

Thanks again x

[MrsOrangejuice]

My tests were always darker in the afternoon/evening and I had a similar scares before I realized. I was also addicted to testing so ended up testing twice a day to compare fmu with fmu, and then pm with pm! I had two chemicals so I understand the worry. Fingers' crossed this is the one for you ☘️

[Kjc999 in reply to MrsOrangejuice]

Thats so good to hear! Thanks so much.

Looking back at my previous tests they were always darker in the evening as well!

I know I am a bit obsessed with testing. Each transfer I have got better ha ha. Its so hard not to test!

Thanks again x

[KiboXX]

My tests are always much darker in the evening! Please don’t worry, it doesn’t mean anything is wrong xx

[Kjc999 in reply to KiboXX]

That's so good to hear! Thanks for making me feel better x

[Redsequin]

Those look great to me! I know it’s so hard, but if you keep on testing you’ll probably add massively to your stress. If you can bear it, I’d stop now and trust in the process. Xxxx

[Kjc999 in reply to Redsequin]

Ha ha thanks so much. Its so hard not to test! Although I am going to do my best!

[Twiglet2]

Looks good for 10 days!- weirdly mine were always darker at night, I know it’s hard but maybe give yourself a day or 2 break from the tests as it can drive you bonkers eh? Best of luck to you xxx

[Kjc999 in reply to Twiglet2]

Yes definitely driving me bonkers! It's so hard not to test though. Why can't it just be one test pregnant and that's it! I wish 🤣 x x

[Junk41]

It looks good, step away from the tests hun xx

I have had two prior pregnancies, one ending in a TMFR and the other in a MMC. For the second one I spent over 300 quid on tests, I tested almost every moment and all it did was make me more anxious and keep analysing. I would do tests in different brands and look at the progression in each one.

After therapy following the two losses, I bought only three tests for the next one. Tested on 5dp, 7dp & 9dp (post 5dt). Got my positives on first and watched the progression. Did my beta on 10dp5dt and then binned the tests and vowed not to buy anymore.

There was nothing in my power that I could do anymore so rather than spending time fixating on the tests I am just enjoying the pregnancy. I haven't even booked private scans outside my scheduled ones. It's not easy for sure but I can definitely say my mental health and stress level is much better now than with the second one. I will never know the cause, it could have been a chromosomal abnormality but a little voice tells me that it was the stress. I was really manic with it and constantly poring over tests and progression did not help.

I am wishing you the best, I for sure understand the anxiety after a loss but it truly is out of your hands now so just try and sit back and enjoy your pregnancy journey xx

I have some tools I use but will pass it on if you want them. Take good care of yourself ❤️

[Kjc999 in reply to Junk41]

So sorry for your losses 😭its so so cruel.

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. Yes it's super hard not to test constantly. I have improved! On my last few transfers I was testing twice a day from 4dp5dt!!! But I made it to day 8 this time 😁🤣

Yes my OTD is 14dpt which is Thursday. So I will test then and if its positive I am going to bin tests and STOP! my clinic don't do bloods so I just need to remain positive.

You sound like you are in a really good place mentally 😊

I really hope everything goes smoothly for you and have a happy easy pregnancy! 😊

I'm crossing everything for both of us 🤞

X x x x

[Kjc999]

***update***So I have obviously tested twice today already 🙃

Why are the lines playing with me! I know I shouldn't test but I can't not! It helps me as I feel I need to be in control!

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[HollyT7]

I had it this time around!!! I was devastated and thought it was another chemical... but here I am 22 weeks tomorrow! Are you testing using a pot or in the stream? My light was in the stream. Easy to say put the tests away, but I really would, go by the latest result which is dark!! ❤️❤️

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[Kjc999 in reply to HollyT7]

Thanks so much for for giving me some reassurance! It's so hard isn't it! Congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope it goes smoothly 🙏 thanks again!

[Jess1981]

I did this with my last miscarriage ( I’ve had 3 early losses and a late miscarriage ) . Instead I was under false hope the pregnancy was progressing well ( only to lose the pregnancy at 7 weeks) when I conceived after that loss I decided to only test once and let it be pregnancy testing wouldn’t change the outcome. Anyway that pregnancy is now my 3 month old daughter Eliza a sibling for our other daughter Francesca . I’m so sorry for your losses it definitely makes you more nervous. With Francesca I found my tests were stronger afternoon/ evening if that is any comfort. I’d recommend you get BETAS as they are far more accurate than home pregnancy tests. Hopefully you’ll have a scan that’ll give you some reassurance 🙂 wishing you the best. Rainbow babies do exist 😇 my Eliza is one! Xx

[Kjc999 in reply to Jess1981]

Thanks so much! You have given me hope and your right testing does not change the outcome! I will leave the tests alone until OTD which is Thursday and 🤞🤞🤞 everything! X x x

[Hidden]

I think you should not test for a few days. It’s not doing you any good panicking. I know we all think ‘at least I will know’ but actually you don’t know anything and you can’t influence anything so it’s not really achieving anything! Give your HCG a couple of days to rise and then try again. Sorry for being blunt but I’ve been where you are so many times and it just didn’t help anything! Good luck xx

[Kjc999 in reply to Hidden]

No please don't apologise! I need to be told!!! 🤣 I am a serial tester!!!